Hello Max: I've been thinking about having sexual encounters with other men lately. I've been in a committed partnership for 14 years now. My partner has undergone major surgery and I'm sympathetic to that issue, but he can't participate in sexual activity for a couple of months. I've been masturbating to porn but it's not satisfying me. I don't want to pressure him either, so I have these thoughts of wanting to feel satisfied. My partner doesn't like porn and I am tired of trying to get my sexual needs met through that method alone. I'm really not sure if I want to have sex with other men, but the thought has surfaced. I don't want my partner to feel like he's not enough for me, but my drive is more plentiful than his. He knows my sexual appetite and knows I am horny, but we don't do anything about it so do you have any suggestions or something to ease my mind with this matter. Sincerely, A Good Guy Gone Horny!
ANSWER:
You have been together for 14 years so couple of months without sex is not really that long. I know you are a very sexual person, but if your partner is going through a tough time, you should support him and stay by his side. Of course, that is if you still want to be in a relationship with him. My advise is that communication is the key to any problem. If you think you can't wait and need to have sex with someone else, you may want to talk to him about it. You may come to a solution to the way you feel. It is always easy to find someone to have sex, but so hard to find someone to love and have a relationship with. So think about what you want and talk to your partner.
Don't be ashamed for wanting to have sex with other men while your partner is not active. It happened to me too while partner was hurt. Once your guy is better, offer the best sex of your life.
Your partner has had major surgery and is aware of your needs. You can certainly do everything in your power to help your partner recover and if that doesn't keep you busy, renovate your home; that will knock th horniness out of you and leave you little time. Having a discussion with your partner about sleeping around will put your relationship into jeopardy and will be counterproductive to his recovery and put even more pressure on him. You're being selfish. It could be you in a few years.
My partner was out of commission for 4 months due to injuries and surgery. Suck it up, be a man, and have some self control. Let your love rule your head.
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