Does anal sex hurt the first time?

spreadeagle i need your help, its me 14 man. I dont know if they deleted my name or what!? but i can't log in and i've tried everything, i even re regiestered.
Please help me, and give some ideas for making a better dildo than a marker...


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spreadeagle help me!!!! my name was deleted and i cant log in and send you messages, what should i do, i already re registered and it didn't work!!!

[spreadeagle]

G'day mate

It sounds to me like you're talking about more than just pain around your asshole, which Max addresses in his reply. If your b/f is going deep then he might easily be banging into your guts internally. This can hurt if he's nudging into your 'sigmoid colon' - the part where it starts to go round an 'S' bend. There are a few things you can do to help.

Use lube: on the condom; around your asshole and inside.
Experiment with different positions. When you're first getting into anal I recommend that you sit astride him so that YOU can control the depth and speed and angle of his thrusts. If you read through this correspondence you'll find it covered pretty thoroughly.
Have a shit and a pee before making love.
Take it slowly and don't disrespect yourself by giving his pleasure greater priority than your pain. It shouldn't hurt. The most likely cause is him thrusting too deep, too fast and too hard. In other words, there's nothing wrong with you, the pain's a signal that you both have to pay attention to. This should be about equal, mutual respect and fun. Talk to him about it.
You'll both get a lot more out of fucking if you rid yourselves of the notion that it's a race to see how fast you can cum.

Take it easy
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Anal sex is not essential. Before about 1980, it wasn't even popular. There are other ways to have sex which are not painful and are much less likely to cause injury. Also, anal sex is the most efficient way there is to spread HIV and, because it is rough on condoms, condoms do not provide adequate protection.

I heard that by having anal sex the you butt gets bigger is that true iwanna try it but im extreml scared its hgunna hurt and i also hurt u can end up popiing by accidnet

[spreadeagle]

Hey buddy,

Let's recap:

Anal sex can hurt but it doesn't have to. The guy getting fucked should be in control and he has to trust the other guy to stop if he says 'Stop'. A good way to manage that is by having the one being fucked on top and lowering his ass down onto his mate's stiff dick.

Your asshole needs to stretch to accomodate a big dick but most dicks aren't any thicker than your average turd. If you try and take a big dick without any preparation it's gonna hurt. You need to get your asshole used to the sensation and the stretch (and your brain used to the idea) by lubing and fingering and dildoing your ass during your private jack-off sessions. And when you're with your buddy, have some foreplay - don't just plunge right in there. With fucking, the thrusts push inwards against the accustomed flexion of the ass-hole muscles and you need to practice control of these muscles so you can tighten and release them at will. Check out 'kegel exercises' in Google; if you practice the exercises you'll keep your hole good and tight. If you don't you could start getting skid-marks; it's as simple as that.

If you take a crap before fucking you'll reduce the chance of pooping involuntarily. But face the fact, the asshole has a dual function and sooner or later you'll encounter some shit. So, eating healthily and regularly and drinking plenty of water are sensible precautions. You can also douche (sluice out your ass) before sex. Always use condoms and plenty of lube.

Mate, your ass is your own to enjoy as you choose. Your fears are understandable but they arise from inexperience and can be managed easily. Make your first fuck with someone you like and trust. Millions of people enjoy anal sex every day.Take responsibility and control over your own sexual health and pleasure.

All the best, mate
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[Topguy]

Originally Posted by curiousguy

Thanks guys. I too am a very curious guy, and can't wait for my first time with another guy as a 'bottom'. I know condoms and lubricant are important, but what else must I remember to make sure my first time isn't painful?

Well I hope your first time will be great for you. Just remember that foreplay is important in preparing yourself. Take it slow and don't rush. Ask your partner to rim you or massage your hole with some lube while you both kiss and let him insert his finger into you.
Any discomfort you may have will turn into pleasure as long as he doesn't pound you right off. Just take it slow and easy. You will love it.

The first time you have anal sex it hurts like hell. Once you get used to it thoguh it can be a great source of sexual pleasure

[spreadeagle]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

The first time you have anal sex it hurts like hell. Once you get used to it thoguh it can be a great source of sexual pleasure

Hey mate!

Could you mean that the first time YOU had anal sex it hurt like hell?

I think it's important that we don't project our own negative experiences onto others because it can create expectations that may not be appropriate or relevant for them. Forewarned is forearmed - fair enough - but I hope that reader's of this correspondence will see that guys have experienced their first fuck in a range of ways.

We need to take responsibility for what happens to our bodies. If you don't want your first fuck to hurt then it seems to me that exercising your freedom of choice and conscientious preparation are key factors. If it hurts then you and your partner aren't ready yet.

Cheers
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[Richie]

On my first time, it felt the same way, a bit full and as though I had to go to the bathroom. Besides that, it was AWESOME!