RE: I fell in love with my co-worker. The problem is...

[pride7]

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[BEACHGUY]

Max is really so right. To "fall in love" doesn't obligate the other guy in any way and being he is openly promiscuous should tell you everything. You must be very young and
inexperienced to allow yourself to have so little self respect. Most attractions are, at first, physical, and if you were to have anything sexual to do with the guy, don't count
on anything with permanency since his reputation precedes him. It hurts to be in love,
and the unfortunate part is that you work closely. Just don't be used.

[Unregistered]

I first laid eyes on him 8 years ago, and have been working together in the same section of the office for 7. He knows I am gay and he is very friendly. We go to lunch a lot and even enjoy shopping, etc. He even introduced me to his friends.
Problem is:
He says he is straight and has a girlfriend whOM he introduced to me before. I do not have a problem with this, but my problem is he spends weekends (3 to 4 days and nights with this new gay friend without the girlfriend).One new staff in our Unit he had known for only a couple of weeks had been spreading word in the office that he now spends all his weekends with my friend. I asked myself how did this happen, he has not invited me to anyhing let alone weekends in the mountains?
I have fallen deeply for him and am not expecting anything sexual in return. He wouldnt want to talk about this other guy except that he said he is also gay.
What do I do? Idont want to loose him but this is kinng me. Help!

[Unregistered]

Well I am in love with my best friend (who is straight). Now THAT's hard. we went to college together. He had looks but it wasn't what drew me towards him. We were living in the same dorm hall and we just became very good friends from the start. I was not out at the time....I come off as very straight and he never suspected. we played all kinds of sports together and that got us real close cus we'd always beat other people as a team. At first I was not remotely attracted romantically to him, despite his good looks, I remained that way (strictly friednship) for the next 3 years, seeking other love interests. I eventually came to realize how much we've been through together, the studying, quizzing each other, the encouragements before midterms, sports, the way we help each other out.....and I realized I loved him dearly. Somehow I fell in love. And now my heartache lies in the fact that I AM close to him, and he isn't afraid to open himself up to me completely and it's just enticing for me to tell hiim I love him. It's like....torture, especially when we spend time together alone without our other friends and he pours out his heart to me (even if it's about his relationship with his girlfriend)......sometimes when he's shirtless sitting next to me I'm literally red-colored....and when we go swimming and he tries to wrestle me.....it's like....a serious turn on nowadays and I gotta hold it in and be what we use to be and wrestle him back. I can't help but feel very good about the fact that we're so close, but feel like crap that we're so distant at the same time.....cus there's this gargantuan secret I'm keeping from him.

[Justin.Andrews88]

I have the same problem with one of my best friends, who is also straight. I know nothing can ever come of it with him, but the man makes me nuts. I just hope that I meet someone as awesome as him that can love me back.