Are you a 'Bottom', 'Top', or 'Versatile'?

[pride7]

Are you a 'Bottom', 'Top', or 'Versatile'? Or don't you believe in those kind of labels?

[Unregistered]

Don't care about politics or whatever.

[Unregistered]

but do we have to put it all out there? I don't think most straight people understand, or comprehend, the concept of 'top' or 'bottom'. Why do we have to force this upon them?

[Unregistered]

Don't really care about labels. I like it both ways

[Unregistered]

i'm a total fag...bottom al the way. I mean I want a muscular man's man to fuck me and satisfy me like a straight man fucks a woman. I can't imagine being a top.

[Unregistered]

Are these terms permanent or can someone be a bottom today and a top tomorrow and versatile next week? What kind of sex do these terms apply to? Oral sex or anal sex? Are bottoms always passive? Can tops be gentle? I would like a really knowledgeable person to treat this subject comprehensively.

[Dewey05334]

I'm a bottom and I have a top for a boyfriend feeling very lucky here. Everyone seems to have their fancy.

[Unregistered]

I'm not sure what these terms really mean, and i don't know what i am. I think i am a top. Do these terms apply to oral and anal sex? I tend to focus on oral sex and seem to want to give rather than receive. I think i need to spend a week with a nice oral bottom and find out what i am.

[sgp100]

I like being fucked anally, but sometimes I like to do the fucking. It really depends on my mood. If I'm really horny, I like being fucked, otherwise, I tend to lean towards whatever any partner I meet wants to do. As far as oral sex goes, I like sucking and being sucked. If my partner has a big cock, I like to do the sucking, and then have him suck me. Either way, I like to suck first, then be sucked. For hand sex, I'm not sure. I've never given or received a handjob before.

[cockwizard]

I am a true happy bottom who will do ANYTHING for a good hard cock!!

[roaddawg]

:cool: I guess for me it anything goes. I have had Tops switch in the middle and I had bottems with really big one eyed snakes, who turned me into a cock craving monster. I'm a biker so at our parties who knows who is or isn't especially when you get alot of men high, drunk and no one has any clothes on. :D

[Unregistered]

I think it is stupid to label this and that. Gay sex is gay sex.

[Unregistered]

I'm a very oral top!

[Unregistered]

Just do what you wanna do, men. If you enjoy it, do it. Isn't that what gay sex is all about afterall? Gay sex has so much to offer. Explore it all. Find out what's right for you and just enjoy. Why do you have to call it anything except what it is...the most fun you can possibly have with your clothes off...or partially off as the case may sometimes be :-).Top or bottom or in between...it's all good, baby. Just be who you are and never feel like you have to apologize to anyone for it.

[Unregistered]

i'm a total fag...bottom al the way. I mean I want a muscular man's man to fuck me and satisfy me like a straight man fucks a woman. I can't imagine being a top.

A muscular top can be a total fag too, and will probably satisfy you better than a straight man satisfies a woman.

[adams1]

It’s very American to have to decide, like ‘McDonald’s or Burger King?’ Why should you limit yourself that way? Versatility benefits everyone. The best tops are also bottoms because they know what it feels like.

[SpoonyFox]

I'm a Bottom

[Unregistered]

i'm a total fag...bottom al the way. I mean I want a muscular man's man to fuck me and satisfy me like a straight man fucks a woman. I can't imagine being a top.
I LIKE BEING A BOTTOM ALL THE WAY. I LOVE TO SATISFY A MAN. I LOVE TO BE LIKE A WOMAN.

[Unregistered]

Don't really care about labels. I like it both ways
It depends on who i am with and the mood i am in , with an Older masculine guy with a big one ' then i prefer to be on the bottom , and with a younger petete guy with a nice ass 'i prefer to be a top...g.

[Unregistered]

well I would have to say top but have bottom before only 3 times in 5yrs. but top mostly

[spreadeagle]

Hey guys,

Reading the responses to this question it's clear that many guys are still thinking of the ways they interact sexually in terms of 'masculine' or 'feminine' roles. That seems to me very self-limiting. Hasn't our main objection to oppressive straight society always been its desire to rigidly prescribe our sexual behaviour for us? So why, when we find the courage to deviate from their 'acceptable norms' should be still try and pigeon-hole ourselves? My rule of bum has always been that if you're a guy and you do it, then your behaviour is masculine.

With sufficient experience everyone can discover what suits them best. Very often there is a psychological component to what turns you on. Those of us who are timid may choose to limit the amount of pleasure we allow ourselves by restricting our sex-lives to the tried and true and by never daring to step beyond the confines of what we have deemed acceptable. Greater levels of intimacy and extremes of sexual pleasure are possible when we open ourselves to new possibilities. Ironically, excessively macho types are often so armoured that they are unable to surrender sufficiently to allow themselves to feel.

Cheers Queers
Spready

[biguy32ohio]

We have these kind of labels to help describe what we as individuals,are going to exspect from our partners. If someone does NOT feel comfortable as a "Bottom", but loves doing another guy anally, he needs a way to describe his exspectations before he picks a Partner. If he does NOT feel comfortable as"Top",but,craves to be a on the Bottom,his partner should know that,so he understands any other role would be a "New",Maybe Scary,Experience for him. Some guys, just do not like to change how they have experienced sex. They may feel there Manhood is inadequate to please a man Anally, or they may just "Worship" Cock and only want to be Fucked. Most of the problem is in their Mind. I spent years in the Gay community in San Diego, most of the Guys i met and dated were "Mentally" scarred by there Past. They feared to change there Attitude about Gay/Bi Men. I have had Consulling myself to help deal with my own history. I decided i should ALLOW myself to experience everything about Gay culture/Sex, Only then, did i realize i could be VERSATILE,without worrying about what others,thought. Besides it keeps things Interesting!

[michael3798]

I had been celibate for many years until recently. Just started cruising online.

This article caused me to review some questions I have had over the years.

One of them was - where do I fit in all these labels. Well, I just met a new "buddy" who tells me I am a top. I don't really think of myself that way, I'm not very aggressive over all. I don't pursue anal. Have some guilty, slightly conflicted feelings about it. I WANT to be a bottom, but could never get past the discomfort (and some pain). If i got fucked 50 times (and I did) then I really liked it maybe twice. So I pretty much don't try anymore. I wish there was a way to "learn" to handle it or something, because it seems to me that most men like it and want it. Some guys actually think oral is just foreplay. I'll be they don't suck good either. I think it takes a lot more to be a good bottom - or cocksucker - than it does to fuck. Any idiot can fuck.

So I guess I've been wondering if bottoms are born? made? what?

My new friend is a total bottom and encourageing me to be ok with being a top for him - oh boy - what a thrill.

I do strive to remember to be concerned that my bottom partner has a good time too.

After such a long celibacy, I have been looking for a particular thing - fantasy really - to satisfy, but have not yet acheived this. My new friend is cool with it. I am trying to find a big one to be an oral sub for, and can you beleive i'm having trouble finding it.

I remember the olden days in San Francisco (the 70's) when an attractive young man could not get to a bus stop without being offered sex. Oh god do I miss that.

I have heard about these bukkake parties and I think "Man that is for me!" But I am guessing that the reality would not be as fun as a cocksuckers fantasies are. Orally serving a bunch of men as a slave is the fantasy - new if I could find just a few guys to treat me that way for a little while, I would get over this rediculous obsession, I am sure. But anyway the fantasy is fun for me.

Any comments about "learning" to bottom? I would love to hear.

[Unregistered]

Hey guys,

Ironically, excessively macho types are often so armoured that they are unable to surrender sufficiently to allow themselves to feel.

Cheers Queers
Spready

That's why we are "gay".Think twice!how wonderful

[Topguy]

Definately a Top here. Love topping guys who have eager holes. ;)
I bottomed a few times many years ago but just don't care for it and haven't done it since.
I think if I was to do it again it would have to be with one very special guy that I would be in love with.

[Unregistered]

Hi Topguy,

Thanks for your note. You sure seem sweet and have a nice rod there.
Would love riding it. Hope you are doing well.

P

[1954boitoy]

i was precieved to be a top but truley enjoy being a bottom.love the sensations of it and a man that can make me scream if i can be so blunt.my partner calls me a butchey bottom,what ever that means

[1954boitoy]

:rolleyes: I had been celibate for many years until recently. Just started cruising online.

This article caused me to review some questions I have had over the years.

One of them was - where do I fit in all these labels. Well, I just met a new "buddy" who tells me I am a top. I don't really think of myself that way, I'm not very aggressive over all. I don't pursue anal. Have some guilty, slightly conflicted feelings about it. I WANT to be a bottom, but could never get past the discomfort (and some pain). If i got fucked 50 times (and I did) then I really liked it maybe twice. So I pretty much don't try anymore. I wish there was a way to "learn" to handle it or something, because it seems to me that most men like it and want it. Some guys actually think oral is just foreplay. I'll be they don't suck good either. I think it takes a lot more to be a good bottom - or cocksucker - than it does to fuck. Any idiot can fuck.

So I guess I've been wondering if bottoms are born? made? what?

My new friend is a total bottom and encourageing me to be ok with being a top for him - oh boy - what a thrill.

I do strive to remember to be concerned that my bottom partner has a good time too.

After such a long celibacy, I have been looking for a particular thing - fantasy really - to satisfy, but have not yet acheived this. My new friend is cool with it. I am trying to find a big one to be an oral sub for, and can you beleive i'm having trouble finding it.

I remember the olden days in San Francisco (the 70's) when an attractive young man could not get to a bus stop without being offered sex. Oh god do I miss that.

I have heard about these bukkake parties and I think "Man that is for me!" But I am guessing that the reality would not be as fun as a cocksuckers fantasies are. Orally serving a bunch of men as a slave is the fantasy - new if I could find just a few guys to treat me that way for a little while, I would get over this rediculous obsession, I am sure. But anyway the fantasy is fun for me.

Any comments about "learning" to bottom? I would love to hear.

[1954boitoy]

i have just recently started my life as gay man,im 52 and did not know what i was.met a very gentle older man that let things flow slowley.telling him i was a vergin kinda set the pace,what i did not know was what i wanted or what to do because i had no friends to talk to or trust with my life secret.so everything was seek and find what was acceptable.well let me tell you the learning alone was something to write about but as a once married man i can tell you i never in my life had or felt anything like this.we are together a year noe and have never switched positions yet and i truley dont know if i want to.i think it is all a matter of your personallity and your feelings whlie having sex.if you truley dont feel things than you must change positions

[Unregistered]

you sound really messed up, dude

[Unregistered]

It’s very American to have to decide, like ‘McDonald’s or Burger King?’ Why should you limit yourself that way? Versatility benefits everyone. The best tops are also bottoms because they know what it feels like.

Adams1 is right ... the best tops (as with the best bottoms) are versatile, and their experience of what the "other" feels like helps them to be better lovers.

[Unregistered]

I am a bi guy...not so much because I'm attracted to men, or because I have romantic attchments to them - I really dont' - but because I have sex with men and women. When I'm with another guy, I definitely prefer to bottom...in fact, I don't think I've topped a guy since I first got laid by a girl!

WRT the label stuff: I am a 'masculine' guy - most definitely a guy - in my life. I am in touch with my receptive side - if that's 'feminine', so be it! I don't really care. I absolutely love the feeling of 'giving it up' and allowing a man into me - both psychologically and physically. I love it when my gf 'pegs' me. A number of my 'gay' fuckbuddies who are tops understood very clearly that we were friends with no romantic component (some guys really didn't want to have anything to do with me after accepting this), understood that I really was a 'straight' guy who just really liked getting fucked - they were cool with it and very supportive. We are good friends and we make each other feel really good physically.

I think the label stuff is crazy. Who cares. I feel very much in touch with my 'receptive' side when I get it, and the orgasms are mind-blowing. I also have pretty intense sex when I'm penetrating my girlfriend (either vaginally or anally), and I feel in touch with my "agressive" side then. Just enjoy yourself and help your partner feel good too.

[NWboy72]

i like to get it. gimme, gimme, gimme! can top, but like to get IT! thank you very much.

[Unregistered]

I am a total top attached to a total bottom boy for the last nine years. Ain't life gr8!!!!!

[Julian3211]

I think like in everything, gay men also are varied. Some are tops some bottoms some like both and some start out one way and end another. I don't think you have to be passive to be a bottom by any means. I happen to think that when I'm a bottom, I'm sometimes more agressive than as a top, and at times more agressive than whoever is topping me. And I have been with agressive and passive tops.. so it all varies. That means theres something for everyone.

[bottmboi]

i like being the person on the bottom it gives me the feeling of be a woman which is what i want I want to be fu**ed like woman

[Unregistered]

I've had a fuckbuddy since the 9th grade. We were both 14 when we really got into it. Also we never defined ourselves as top or bottom but it just worked out that way that he has always topped me from way back then till now. We are both 26 and also we are Bi and have done a few gals together. We do get physicial doing our oral sex and with him being bigger and more muscular I always end up on the bottom. You know something? I always loved it and still do. Also the funny thing is when we both do a gal. Just about all of them say im a much better lover than my Bud is dispite him being much more endowed than me and of course a much more muscular body than me. Maybe it's because I learned so much from him topping me is the reason I seem to pass this knowledge of love making on to the gals we have balled. This makes him feel a little inferior for a change instead of me. But I do make it up to him when we are alone. It's nice to have the best of both worlds in a so clled top and bottom World.

SkinnyDude

[koalabear9651]

I can give or receive. It all depends on the other person. Labels are meaningless to me.

[HOMER]

I Like Both Ways

[Gaeilge]

I think I'd be versatile but I'm more on the bottom...

[TristenSquirter]

Almost every one knows his position from the very first moment of puberty. I knew I was a total bottom before anything was ever explained to me. Where confusion comes in is when people allow themselves to be influenced by the imput of others and society in general. You totally know the answer without any outside coaching. Your either a top or a bottom, the label versatle is fictional, and some people al;low themselves to be influenced into adopting it because they may share some bottom or top impulses, but their still predominantly one or the other. The lables are not something we are "putting on straight society" they add clarity to our world and they identiify who we really are which is nothing to be ashamed of and hide, we should all be proud of who we are and celebrate our sexuality- It was a gift at birth from the creator and something to be gratefull for and to be treasured as it is one of the very best parts of this life we have.In my difinitive view love is the very most important thing in this life and sex is definately number two.

[Lensp]

I'm whatever happens when I'm with a person I like.

[Unregistered]

I agree with you i am a bottom and have always benn a botton and have no desire to top

[Unregistered]

I am a bottom. I've topped my boyfriend once at my request just to try and didn't enjoy it very much. My boyfriend is versatile and sometimes I'm afraid he is missing not being a bottom. I ask, but he says no. Not sure what to think since I have always only bottomed and don't know what its like to miss the other.

[SkinnyDude]

Funny thing. Like I mentioned in a previous post My Bud and Me have been fuckbuddies since we were both 14. He has always topped me and we both seem to love our roles. A few times he asked me to top him for a change. As soon as I was on top of him we both knew we were both where we didn't belong. So we simply rolled over and went back to doing what we enjoyed best. Him on top and me on the bottom. It was worth a try to know where we both stand for sure.

[hungpalomino]

here's the thing. i've tried all positions. enjoyed most, but it's that moment after sex that i don't know what to do with sometimes. when i top, i love finding the guys buttons and making him moan. when i bottom, i love getting opened up and aggresively try to fuck back.
but when it's over (if i've beeen on top) i'm always a little embarrased at the gratefulness of my partner. conversely, when i bottom, i'm get embarrassed at having appeared so vulnerable. perhaps this wouldn't be the case in a love relationship, but i wish i knew how to view it so i didn't feel so weird after , topping or bottoming when it's just play sex.

[Unregistered]

I like it both ways. i love fucking a nce tight musclar ass, and i like the feeling of a big hard dick pumping my ass.

[spanishluv247]

i am 150 % Bottom

[Unregistered]

Been with my bf for 8 years. He is mostly top and I am almost exclusively bottom. It works really well. In our 8 years together, i have top him maybe 10-15 times and i have bottom 100's times. We don't have anal sex every time, I mean after 8 years, but the best sex is still when I am riding him hard and I feel his cock in me. It is the greatest connection between 2 men.

[gufeprufe]

my first encounter with anal sex was as a reluctant top. my date sat on me and of course i thrusted naturally. it was nice. another man did the same thing and that was nice also. a third guy asked me to fuck him and it was not going too well, so he suggested switching places. once he entered me, i knew. he was not my preferred lover, but once i found a new friend who was tender and gentle and loving, i readily opened my ass for him.

what a lovely feeling to be filled and to have a man lovingly fucking you!

[hellospank]

I am a bottom ;)

[happybottom]

I am truly a bottom and lucky enough to have found a top that wants a long term relationship

[Unregistered]

im only top, i tryed bottom, but i dont like.