spreadeagle
March 28th, 2004, 02:43 AM
Sorry mate, but I'm feeling stroppy and separatist tonight ...
Haven't we had to put up with enough bullshit from 'straight' society without taking it upon ourselves to help them sort out their sexual identity crises? Gay men have always had to do this work on their own - coming to terms with their sexuality in the face of almost overwhelming opposition from mainstream society - why should he have it easy just because he's 'straight'?
There's a nasty undercurrent here; he's putting the pressure on to get between your sheets. This suggests there's an expectation that because he identifies as straight his desires should take precedence over yours, or possibly that there's a notch-in-the-belt cachet in fucking a straight guy. NOT!
Rather than jeopardising your committed relationship he should piss off and sort out his sexual identity on his own. If he wants to accept the benefits of being 'straight' then he should accept the limitations that that identity confers, and not fucking other men is one of them. If you and your partner want to have a threesome then the appropriate 'other' is another gay man who is relaxed and happy with his sexuality, not some angst-ridden lily-livered wannabe gay!
All the best,
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Haven't we had to put up with enough bullshit from 'straight' society without taking it upon ourselves to help them sort out their sexual identity crises? Gay men have always had to do this work on their own - coming to terms with their sexuality in the face of almost overwhelming opposition from mainstream society - why should he have it easy just because he's 'straight'?
There's a nasty undercurrent here; he's putting the pressure on to get between your sheets. This suggests there's an expectation that because he identifies as straight his desires should take precedence over yours, or possibly that there's a notch-in-the-belt cachet in fucking a straight guy. NOT!
Rather than jeopardising your committed relationship he should piss off and sort out his sexual identity on his own. If he wants to accept the benefits of being 'straight' then he should accept the limitations that that identity confers, and not fucking other men is one of them. If you and your partner want to have a threesome then the appropriate 'other' is another gay man who is relaxed and happy with his sexuality, not some angst-ridden lily-livered wannabe gay!
All the best,
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