RE: I am dating two people...what should I do?

[pride7]

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[Antonio_1116]

If you are dating two people, I don't think its a great idea. You need to decide which one of them you love the most, and stick with them, otherwise you'll end up hurting yourself and the both of them. Eventually you'll figure it out that one dedicated relationship is all you need to survive. Unless, you are in to that whole threesome and orgy thing...in which case you need to find a man who is into that as well.
Chow!

[spreadeagle]

First, define your terms. In much of the world 'dating' simply means going out with a friend on a regular basis, often with the intention of allowing an initial compatability to develop greater intimacy. My impression though, is that in America 'dating' means 'fucking with dinner beforehand.'

What should you do? You don't need to do anything different at all if you're comfortable with the existing situation. You can have a whole stress-free lifetime socialising with individuals or groups who are fun to be with and still be in bed before midnight and get a good night's sleep. Intimate relationships are not compulsory and there are indications that they can damage your health. Many people find their needs are best met by keeping their social life quite separate from their sexual gratification.

But 'dating' is a process, and that implies a destination. What do you hope to get from dating and how will you know when you've achieved it? If the goal is simply a fuck on a Saturday night, then no problem. But if your goal is to develop a 'long-term relationship' then dating two people simultaneously will raise certain issues:

- safer sex and sexually transmitted infections
- definitions of commitment and cheating
- discrepancy between stated intention and behaviour
- applying a consumer mentality to human relationships
- your expectation that other people's standards are different from your own
- twice the expenditure of time and money to maintain two equal relationships

There are millions of fascinating and horny men in the world but men are more than belt notches. There is no obligation to rip the pants of every tasty guy you encounter. Begin reflecting on your past experiences and examining the results. If your actions are not creating for you the life that you truly want, then change your actions.

Cheers
Spread

[Unregistered]

If you are going with two guys, make sure that they both know that your are seeing some one else. Never try and keep it a secret, or when one finds out that you are going with some one else, he might confront the other guy, and you will end up loosing both of them. You must be OPEN about who you are seeing at all times, if there are more than one person that you are having sex with. Or jsut seeing. YOU have to be HONEST!!!!!!!

[dinomorea]

Yeah it never serves any purpose if you lead life this way. We all know you cant move trying to get your feet in two boats at the same time, so best thing to do is to decide which person is more adequate with your feelings, if you have other intentions like flirting or physical relationship then its a different issue, for the sake of relationship its always better to stick to one person.

[James]

Easily solved...pick one.:)

[cowboy]

Yeah it never serves any purpose if you lead life this way. We all know you cant move trying to get your feet in two boats at the same time, so best thing to do is to decide which person is more adequate with your feelings, if you have other intentions like flirting or physical relationship then its a different issue, for the sake of relationship its always better to stick to one person.

,,try telling that to 'bi's,,,,lol,,,

[dave 851]

,,try telling that to 'bi's,,,,lol,,,

Cowboy ... its difficult to hide those prejudices - they obviously are repressed, way deep inside. But a person who's bisexual simply means they like, are attracted to personal and sexual relations with both genders. Thats all it means. It doesnt mean they are whores. :rolleyes: I rest my case.

[James]

Dont think he mentioned the word "whore" lol :)

[James]

Plus I dont think he mentioned your name either...:rolleyes: lol

[cowboy]

Cowboy ... its difficult to hide those prejudices - they obviously are repressed, way deep inside. But a person who's bisexual simply means they like, are attracted to personal and sexual relations with both genders. Thats all it means. It doesnt mean they are whores. :rolleyes: I rest my case.

,,with all the time you in here bgay,,,( talkin about sex,,dick,,,etc,,,,wuts the matter,,,,"duh duh dave',,,did you finally choose,,,,either your wife or men?
,,and I dont have anything against bi's ,,,just how they "bounce from one to another,,so easy,,,( and they say,,they can be "faithful",,,lol,,,,( can you the same?,,,no?,,,, pity! yap on stalker,,,

[James]

Amazing! lol It just goes on and on and on and on. Have a good weekend all!:)

[dave 851]

http://www.zefrank.com/wanted/index.html

[James]

.......lol

[Unregistered]

If you are dating two people, I don't think its a great idea. You need to decide which one of them you love the most, and stick with them, otherwise you'll end up hurting yourself and the both of them. Eventually you'll figure it out that one dedicated relationship is all you need to survive. Unless, you are in to that whole threesome and orgy thing...in which case you need to find a man who is into that as well.
Chow!


the word is "CIAO" darling, and if you are Latin you should know that!
Do not displace your ignorance to those few folks that read this stuff.!

Actually to be 100% correct, depending if you are speaking to a group, it is simply "Ciao" but if you are speaking to a female, it is Ciao Bella, and to a man, it is Ciao Bello.

[Justin.Andrews88]

First, define your terms. In much of the world 'dating' simply means going out with a friend on a regular basis, often with the intention of allowing an initial compatability to develop greater intimacy. My impression though, is that in America 'dating' means 'fucking with dinner beforehand.'

What should you do? You don't need to do anything different at all if you're comfortable with the existing situation. You can have a whole stress-free lifetime socialising with individuals or groups who are fun to be with and still be in bed before midnight and get a good night's sleep. Intimate relationships are not compulsory and there are indications that they can damage your health. Many people find their needs are best met by keeping their social life quite separate from their sexual gratification.

But 'dating' is a process, and that implies a destination. What do you hope to get from dating and how will you know when you've achieved it? If the goal is simply a fuck on a Saturday night, then no problem. But if your goal is to develop a 'long-term relationship' then dating two people simultaneously will raise certain issues:

- safer sex and sexually transmitted infections
- definitions of commitment and cheating
- discrepancy between stated intention and behaviour
- applying a consumer mentality to human relationships
- your expectation that other people's standards are different from your own
- twice the expenditure of time and money to maintain two equal relationships

There are millions of fascinating and horny men in the world but men are more than belt notches. There is no obligation to rip the pants of every tasty guy you encounter. Begin reflecting on your past experiences and examining the results. If your actions are not creating for you the life that you truly want, then change your actions.

Cheers
Spread

Exactly what Spread said. If you have made commitments to one or both men, then yeah, it's cheating and it's wrong. But if you're just 'American dating' (I love Spread's definition) then just make sure you're being as safe and discreet as possible with both guys and consider yourself lucky! :)

Justin