censoring

[drifter]

I am troubled by the censoring in the bgay chat room. As a community fighting for decades to not be silenced, the idea of censoring anything in our chatroom is troubling. I could live with it but there are constant bashers in there disrupting the room. I find the "f" word far less offensive than I do the scrolling, the bashing, the hateful dialog that goes on at times. While I believe in fighting for an arena with equally free speech, seems this is somewhat hypocritical in the approach to censoring.

[pride7]

I am troubled by the censoring in the bgay chat room. As a community fighting for decades to not be silenced, the idea of censoring anything in our chatroom is troubling. I could live with it but there are constant bashers in there disrupting the room. I find the "f" word far less offensive than I do the scrolling, the bashing, the hateful dialog that goes on at times. While I believe in fighting for an arena with equally free speech, seems this is somewhat hypocritical in the approach to censoring.

The bashing etc. in the chatroom is definitely something we are trying to find a solution to prevent. Unfortunately we don't have the manpower/resources to monitor the chat more than a few hours a day and we are thankful of all the feedback we can get from the chatters. We try to use all the options we have available to make the chat a safe and positive place to be, and since we can ban certain words and phrases quite easily in the software, we have chosen to do so.

[Unregistered]

The bashing etc. in the chatroom is definitely something we are trying to find a solution to prevent. Unfortunately we don't have the manpower/resources to monitor the chat more than a few hours a day and we are thankful of all the feedback we can get from the chatters. We try to use all the options we have available to make the chat a safe and positive place to be, and since we can ban certain words and phrases quite easily in the software, we have chosen to do so.

I think ignoring someone is the best way to deal with bashers. Why stoop to their level?

[CRUISER]

iam so disgusted with the chatroom and the bashing that goes on there. i have made alot of new friends in there and i really enjoy seeing them there but this bashing has to stop. i myself read your rules of the chat and it states that any hateful statements or derogatory remarks will not be allowed, but they continue on a daily basis. i know we have the power to redline but the point is, why is this continuing? sometimes the basher will leave and come back as someone else and start all over again. i had 6 names redlined one night..everyone of them a basher. i know there is a thing called freedom of speech but what is going on in there is completely unacceptable! it got so bad one night we had to start our own seperate room. that is ridiculous. i mean if you are going to censor what people are saying, you need to include the basher(s). in all the time i have been going to the chat i have only seen a monitor once. and this room needs to be monitored. if its manpower you need, iam applying for the job.

[pride7]

We know this is a big proble in the chat room and we are trying to do something about it. We are in the room for shorter or longer periods every night, kicking out people that disturb or bash other users. Since we have the ability to go into the room in a 'hidden' mode we prefer doing this for the time being. In that way we are trying to draw a picture of whats going on so we can protect the chat better in the future.

[Tony New York City]

You can't ignore this every 30 seconds...

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sj;lsdjfolajdfjapjfaosjdfasjdpfjspodjfa'osifdj;oai sfuoafh;iahofihads;ofih;oaifhoweih;ofihse;foaihsd; foiahsd;ofh[wefu[0weuf[0w9nue[fueofqjp'fj'pfjh'wepfjhqe'pofh[ofhoifhoaoiUEFOIHw;oiefh;khfH;kahd;oiHD;KHdliuhgdl IUDHGWLIuhqwldiuGQLIDUGqliwugdLQIUDGLiquwgdliQUWGD LIquwgdliQUGDLIqugdwliQUWGDLIqugdliQUGDWLqwypoQIUB WPO9PEOUOWFPOWE'JFWJEFPWOj'wopfjw'POUp93wu[pou'poEWFPOKE'PWE

not to mention redlining doesn't work because the scroller comes in with multiple names and changes then every 5 minutes

[Unregistered]

Up your mother's twat!

[airhilton]

The ONLY way that you will stop or at least slow dow the bashing is to have EVERYONE get a password and/or to post a profile with a password. All outher chat rooms has profile and/or passwords and have no or little bashing and lot less harassment. Only one user name and no changing it unless a new profile is used.

[wachu]

michael from poland

[Unregistered]

Hello. I am an advid user of Bgay. Some of the commercials are not very interesting,,,,and they way that they are worded, is tipical. The Tracey Ullman has got to go,,,,,,,. I understand the use of commercials, but some have to be desireable enough to want to get , or something from them. This particular commercial is very bad,,,,,,and I sometimes log off when i see it,,,,,. Alot of guys make fun of it, and personaly , i think it is a waste of time, and space...And another thing,,,,,,why is most of the commercials , come after the letter "B" as a nick name,,,,,,,(usually) lucky me, lol.......anyway, I do like this chat room,,,,,,,,,thanks for your time, and mabe some more,,,"encoureging" commercials in t he future?

[Tony New York City]

Bgay is a great chatroom...And you have to remember, that's it's free..Seeing an ad here and there is little price to pay for what Bgay has to offer...

[Unregistered]

hello tony from ny.......are you the hot young blonde stud from the mid west that stayed in ny after college.......if so lefty says hello and i miss you guys...........

[Antonio_1116]

Why on earth would anyone be in a gay chatroom just to bash on someone else? I mean come on I know that there are major homophobes out there, but if you're on any website that consits of "homosexuality, bisexuality, or anything that falls in between" then you must be gay! Or, may be, instead of admitting that they are gay to themselves they feel it is better to "bash" others so that they won't feel encouraged to accept themselves as soon. Whatever the reason is, I agree 100%, if you are going to go into a chatroom just to put someone else down...THEN YOU DON'T NEED TO BE THERE! End of story...bye bye...see ya later.

[Gaeilge]

The bashing etc. in the chatroom is definitely something we are trying to find a solution to prevent. Unfortunately we don't have the manpower/resources to monitor the chat more than a few hours a day and we are thankful of all the feedback we can get from the chatters. We try to use all the options we have available to make the chat a safe and positive place to be, and since we can ban certain words and phrases quite easily in the software, we have chosen to do so.

You mean you will not accept any help from anyone.

And just by reading the posts and giving replies... it is supposed to make us assume you're all doing something about it, when infact you're doing nothing at all.

And as for the censored words, get over it. They are ways to post them or any words that Bgay have put on ChatWatch.

[luv2swallow]

how do i get a password

[Sage20]

i agree the easiest way to stop the bashing is to ignore them.

[cowboy]

...hi guys cowboy here ,
glad to see bgay admin will fix room
And we all hope the admin ( hi "pride 7 great to meet you) will also look into the constant ppl who bash and run" ppl out of this room, we have been here for years and have seen alot, but the room @ nights has gone down hill due to these type of ppl,,
as a person usually on days" we try to get along and have fun. But it seems that things do get out of hand when these other ppl" come in and upset the flow of the room.
I'd like to thank pride 7 for all his hard work ,,
and say a warm hello to all the reg;s past and present,,
cowboy!,,

[Minx :_P]

It does no good too hide the names, since they will most likely see this post, it's better to pm the admin the names then take up thread space. Bgay seems very understaffed which happens to alot of places, even the forum is understaffed. i wonder when things will settle down.

[Unregistered]

I've been coming in here for about 3 years now and I really think this is the best chat room for gays and Bi's around. at first I used to be very thin skined and would stand there and argue with a basher or someone just hell bent on insulting me or one of my many friends here. I have come to realize that it's much easier to Redline his dumb ass and have him out of my life with one click of the mouse. If he takes the trouble to log out and come in with a different name then he's a sorry ass moron who needs to get a life.
Also it's been my experience not only in chat rooms but in real life that a Basher is secretly a gay person who is ashamed of his life. There are a lot of real down to earth dudes in here that I would trust being in a fox hole with. A Basher is not one of them!

[Unregistered]

hi guys! good to se u ll have the chat rollin gain. thx for the hours of bull shit n fun. been here for a number of years red line or not the best way to get rid of somebody is to ignore them a** hol*s need attention w/o it they leave.... n e how however ya set the room up jus let us know soon as ya git it UP oops... thx!!

[dave 851]

The postings on Moderators could easily be linked to this thread. I know free speech & censoring are sensitive issues for most ppl (esp americans). And I see the concerns expressed about the increasing use/abuse by some chatters of: changing & assuming different names. And of course the backbiting (to attack the character or reputation of a person who is not present) ... and bitchiness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/bitchiness) & name calling, etc.

This issue - like life itself, is not simple at all. We all seek simple remedies. And our suggestions and solutions are based on our perception of life, our experiences, and our personalities - not many are really empathetic.

We are all different. We are all complex, unique individuals.

All of the above interacts in the chatroom. So its not simple at all.

Some ppl come into chat simply as a diversion, some to meet, most to get off. So in that context - I find that most pick and chose which set of "lifes rules" they will use and apply in their contact with others in chat.

I find the main conflict regarding a FIX for abuse and bashing comes between: those who come into chat as a whole person, and those who come into chat as something less than a whole person.

And I understand the difference, and I appreciate why people do that.

For me ... I try to come as a whole person. Well ... let me revise that! I used to come as a whole person. I've grown and matured somewhat in chat.

I can like "SkinnyDude" ignore more now. But I cant change the basic me.

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Cheers Guys ... all the best for Christmas (if u celebrate it) and all the best in life.

[Unregistered]

...hi guys cowboy here ,
glad to see bgay admin will fix room
And we all hope the admin ( hi "pride 7 great to meet you) will also look into the constant ppl who bash and run" ppl out of this room, we have been here for years and have seen alot, but the room @ nights has gone down hill due to these type of ppl,,
as a person usually on days" we try to get along and have fun. But it seems that things do get out of hand when these other ppl" come in and upset the flow of the room.
I'd like to thank pride 7 for all his hard work ,,
and say a warm hello to all the reg;s past and present,,
cowboy!,,

Amen Cowboy, amen!! Bgay is my outlet to the gay world as most of you know. Its a shame so many GOOD people have left. my hope is that with the wok of the administrator that bgay will once again become a welcoming place for EVERYONE. Maybe with a few changes we may see some of the good old regulars come back to Bgay. Take cre and hope to see you all soon. Hugs, Graham...ps...say a "g'day" to James for me

pss....BRIAN....git your butt back to bgay hehehe

[Unregistered]

Bgay is fandamtastic. I enjoy every minute I stay in Bgay Chat. Nothing bothers me, I ignore what I don't like and just move on. I'm amazed at the smart guys who designed it, and who keep it working.

I have not one single complaint. AND, after all, it's FREE! You deserve praise, not complaints.

Thanks to those @ Bgay!

[Gaeilge]

Bgay is fandamtastic. I enjoy every minute I stay in Bgay Chat. Nothing bothers me, I ignore what I don't like and just move on. I'm amazed at the smart guys who designed it, and who keep it working.

I have not one single complaint. AND, after all, it's FREE! You deserve praise, not complaints.

Thanks to those @ Bgay!

That's the most stupid thing I've read on here.

And most, if not all DigiChat sites are free to use.

[dave 851]

Well I was praying for a miracle. With "cowboys" intercession - and our prayers to bgay.com's guardian angel - GAY-Briel. The heavens will soon open wide. Light will shine where previous it was not seen. Night will turn to day. Bottoms will Top with Venerable Versatiles. A chorus of angels will sing praises on Bi. The Lord Provider will tighten the restraints, damning the abusers and bashers, to immortal enslavement as domestic help, in the House of Damnation. And all will be issued rose colored glasses. Shall drink from the fountain of eternal youth. Bask in the sunshine of a new dawn. And Peace shall reign from one end of the condom to the other. Hallelujahha.

[Unregistered]

The postings on Moderators could easily be linked to this thread. I know free speech & censoring are sensitive issues for most ppl (esp americans). And I see the concerns expressed about the increasing use/abuse by some chatters of: changing & assuming different names. And of course the backbiting (to attack the character or reputation of a person who is not present) ... and bitchiness (http://thesaurus.reference.com/browse/bitchiness) & name calling, etc.

This issue - like life itself, is not simple at all. We all seek simple remedies. And our suggestions and solutions are based on our perception of life, our experiences, and our personalities - not many are really empathetic.

We are all different. We are all complex, unique individuals.

All of the above interacts in the chatroom. So its not simple at all.

Some ppl come into chat simply as a diversion, some to meet, most to get off. So in that context - I find that most pick and chose which set of "lifes rules" they will use and apply in their contact with others in chat.

I find the main conflict regarding a FIX for abuse and bashing comes between: those who come into chat as a whole person, and those who come into chat as something less than a whole person.

And I understand the difference, and I appreciate why people do that.

For me ... I try to come as a whole person. Well ... let me revise that! I used to come as a whole person. I've grown and matured somewhat in chat.

I can like "SkinnyDude" ignore more now. But I cant change the basic me.

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Cheers Guys ... all the best for Christmas (if u celebrate it) and all the best in life.

HYPOCRITE!!!

[Glenn 23]

Most of the time I enjoy the room. There r certain people that make it ruff but the worst is when a person just types letters over and over --then hes gone and will return under a different name. There are certain guys that bash and does it 4 no reason -I realize people only put others down to make themselves feel superior. It would be nice to have a monitor pop in at times . If u do can u have them log in using a reg name reason being when bashers see an authority they calm down until that person leaves.
I do hope you get the room up and running very soon.
thx, Glenn

[dave 851]

HYPOCRITE!!!

Even in the forums the assholes dont have the guts to hold a nickname long enough to cum. But those that do are easy targets.

[James]

I have been coming to bgay chat, it will be 6 years Jan and I must say I have never seen such childish behavior from certain chatters before..(name changing, name stealing, trouble starting, gossipers...anything for attention!). I remember a time in that room when it used to be fun to go to and chat, day or night. But some chatters have gotten run out due to bashing, others have left entirely because they are just sick and tired of looking at it. Ignoring does not work because it seems that some would rather fight than be ignored. If you ignore them that just seems to cause more issues. Not everyone is going to like everyone, for whatever the reason, that is a fact of life. You cannot change that. But, we have to share this chatroom and respect each others space. If you see someone you dont get along with, just leave them alone and go about your merry way. If more people minded their own business and not worried about what the other is doing, bgay would be a happier place for all :)!..p.s, Hi Graham, saw your "g'day", hope all is well.

[cowboy]

,,,well said james.."some should" heed your words,,,
,,,ps, hi dingo hugs

[dave 851]

agreed cowboy and james. wow agreeing with those two. lol. i'm history. i sent a dozen emails out, asking: "...do u know the lyrics to, bye bye bgay..." sung to the music of "Bye Bye Birdie".

No this evening the name stealers and other morons were running wild. I had enough. When u come away from something, someone, someplace - feeling bad more than good. Its time to move on.

Please try and contain the laughter, at your age, you'll wet yourself.

Take Care

[Unregistered]

Ignoring does not work because it seems that some would rather fight than be ignored. If you ignore them that just seems to cause more issues. Not everyone is going to like everyone, for whatever the reason, that is a fact of life. You cannot change that. But, we have to share this chatroom and respect each others space. If you see someone you dont get along with, just leave them alone and go about your merry way. If more people minded their own business and not worried about what the other is doing, bgay would be a happier place for all :)!..p.s, Hi Graham, saw your "g'day", hope all is well.

Sorry JAMES, I can't agree with all you say about ignoring not working. If im in a room with 30 other chatters and there is one dude who seems bent on giving me a hard time or for that matter is putting stupid stuff all over the screen it's right to redline him and ignore him. You say we have to share this room with everyone and I agree. However, the dude who's being a pain in the ass has to realize that he has to share the room also and not fill it up with his assinine bullshit. So one quick click of the mouse and he's History and we can all enjoy a comforable chat. See you in the room JAMES.

[Gaeilge]

HYPOCRITE!!!


http://i146.photobucket.com/albums/r248/refoow/idiot_card_sm.jpg

[James]

lmao..."agreeing with those two". i am not too crazy about it neither.

[cowboy]

agreed cowboy and james. wow agreeing with those two. lol. i'm history. i sent a dozen emails out, asking: "...do u know the lyrics to, bye bye bgay..." sung to the music of "Bye Bye Birdie".

No this evening the name stealers and other morons were running wild. I had enough. When u come away from something, someone, someplace - feeling bad more than good. Its time to move on.

Please try and contain the laughter, at your age, you'll wet yourself.

Take Care

,,,HI EVERYONE ,,,CAN YOU BELIEVE ABOVE,,,
hahahahahahaaaaa,,,,still the same ole" poor pity me,,,,,so popular,,,
,,gee if I fought with so many in room I;d leave too ,,,,
p.s ''not wet with laughter ,,,,,drowning in it!!!'''

[dave 851]

,,,HI EVERYONE ,,,CAN YOU BELIEVE ABOVE,,,
hahahahahahaaaaa,,,,still the same ole" poor pity me,,,,,so popular,,,
,,gee if I fought with so many in room I;d leave too ,,,,
p.s ''not wet with laughter ,,,,,drowning in it!!!'''

:rolleyes: Some tips to improve your writing and communication skills ;)

tautology Needless repetition of information, usually in one sentence (much like redundancy (http://www.well.com/%7Emmcadams/words.html#redundancy)).

Periods (.) should end most sentences; only an exclamation point or a question mark are otherwise allowed to end a sentence that you write. The latter should be used sparingly, the former rarely (if at all) in expository writing. Using too many exclamation points is somewhat akin to laughing too hard at your own joke.

Commas (,) have several functions. They can separate main sentence elements, separate independent clauses containing coordinating conjunctions (for, and, but, nor, or, so, etc.), separate members of a series, set off modifying clauses or phrases, or set off parenthetical elements.

Quotations marks (") in are always made with double marks. Single quotation marks are used only if a quotation is made within a quotation.

Further Reading:

http://maroon.uchicago.edu/viewpoints/articles/2006/04/14/aolspeak_is_destroyi.php

http://www.depend.com/learn/faq.asp

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy_definitions#Distinguished_from_envy

[James]

:D Look who is giving away advice on "writing and communication skills" lmao! I see that so-called tune, "Bye Bye Bgay" didn't last long at all. Pity.:D

[cowboy]

:rolleyes: Some tips to improve your writing and communication skills ;)

tautology Needless repetition of information, usually in one sentence (much like redundancy (http://www.well.com/%7Emmcadams/words.html#redundancy)).

Periods (.) should end most sentences; only an exclamation point or a question mark are otherwise allowed to end a sentence that you write. The latter should be used sparingly, the former rarely (if at all) in expository writing. Using too many exclamation points is somewhat akin to laughing too hard at your own joke.

Commas (,) have several functions. They can separate main sentence elements, separate independent clauses containing coordinating conjunctions (for, and, but, nor, or, so, etc.), separate members of a series, set off modifying clauses or phrases, or set off parenthetical elements.

Quotations marks (") in are always made with double marks. Single quotation marks are used only if a quotation is made within a quotation.

Further Reading:

http://maroon.uchicago.edu/viewpoints/articles/2006/04/14/aolspeak_is_destroyi.php

http://www.depend.com/learn/faq.asp

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jealousy_definitions#Distinguished_from_envy

''GEE DAVEY,,,,,,AFTER ALL THE SEX TALK AND SEX ADVICE YOU(MR BI-MARRIED) GIVE IN THE ROOM ITS A WONDER YOU HAVE TIME TO EVEN ""LOOK AT A DICTIONAIRY",,(OH AND LOOK UP THE MEANING OF "FAITHFUL" ALSO" AND VOWS" ),HAHAHA
IN-BETWEEN YOU FIGHT'IN WITH EVERYONE,,HOW DO YOU MANAGE EVERYDAY CHORES IN LIFE WHILE YOU SIT IN BGAY 24/7,,
PS,,DIDNT YOUR E-MAIL BEFORE THIS ONE SAY YOU WHERE LEAVING?,,,OH GUESS YOU FORGOT TO SAY ""i,M LEAVING ,,FOR 5 MINS"!! HAHAHAHAA,(AGAIN)

[cowboy]

:D Look who is giving away advice on "writing and communication skills" lmao! I see that so-called tune, "Bye Bye Bgay" didn't last long at all. Pity.:D

hi hey james,,,,,,,,
let me know when davey,851,( Miss CHER'S FAREWELL TO BGAY") CONCERT TICKETS GO ON SALE,, AGAIN!!,OK,,,,,,HAHAHAHAHA,,I WANT FRONT ROW!!
KISS

[Tony New York City]

I was wondering when the boards would become a battleground instead of a venue to improve bgay and the quality of life for it's members as well as the quality of life for gay men that use the internet for whatever reason.
I find it amazing that Dave851 finds it necessary to relentlessly rant and rave here. There is such a thing as too much Dave.
As far as James is concerned, I can understand his frustration with bgay. He and Cowboy have had to put up with a great deal of bullshit from some guys. Which in itself is really kind of weird, because I have never seen James be mean to anyone unless he was attacked.And even then he has shown to be a classy guy. I rarely go to bgay anymore. It is a far cry from the chatroom that I remember from 5+ years ago when I first found it. And it seems, thanks to people like Dave851, the bgay forum will suffer the same fate.

[James]

Thanks Tony!. That was very kind of you to say:). We do try to get along with people but with certain individuals it is virtually impossible to do. I do believe in giving people a break and overlooking mistakes. We all make them. BUT, how many times must one forgive and forgive and forgive and overlook "fuck off" or "piss off" from someone, until enough is enough and you wash your hands of them? I mean, how many chances must be given? 10? 20? I refuse to put up a false front and pretend I like someone to their face then private someone else or say in main room after they leave how much I despise that person. Not only is that not fair to the individual you said that about but it is unfair to the room and to yourself. To me that is being two-faced. Sorry, not into that. Bgay is different things to different people. To some it is place to get their "fix", lol more power to them! To others it is a place to meet and chat and have fun, but to a few, drama is on the menu and it best to avoid these people as much as possible. It will make visits more fun for all. Happy Holidays to one and all!

[dave 851]

I've said enough. U guys go about your own business. I'll go about mine. No further comments are need.

[Tony New York City]

Dave,
Maybe it is my fault for not being expicit enough, The point that i was trying to make was not to kiss anyone's ass by being nice to them after they have insulted you. My point is, if you fight back, you are only giving the basher what he really wants, and that is attention. By running or fighting back, you are only validating their miserable existence. I have seen this bashie guy a couple of times. He is basically harmless. It seems to me that his only reason to be in bgay is to shine and recieve accolades from the weaker members of bgay.It is probably because he doesn't have the ability to accumulate an audience that will give him what he thinks of as the lion's share of attention that he thrives on. I went in one day and he attacked me. All I did was laugh and agreed with him. After all. what is chat ? As far as I am concerned it is nothing more than a place to drop in once in awhile in between living a real life. That's why I am hardly ever there. Remember, these people don't even know you. And they never will. Why give them so much to work with by letting them think that they can make you miserable by typing one sentence? I used to get pissed at every put down and believe me there were plenty. But finally I said to myself " Who are these people " ? Some are 60 claiming to be 21. Some are so way back in the closet that it would take "the jaws of life to get them out " etcetera, etctera, etcetera. Make new friends in bgay. The worse thing that you can do is to empower a miscreant.

[Gaeilge]

No Comment. Lol.

[dave 851]

Thanks for your explanation Tony. :) I am glad "things" have calmed down somewhat. I find, and I am as much to blame, that this bashing, name stealing, cloning, that after a while takes on a life of its own. And other issues get dragged into it. Then words are exchanged ... battle lines get drawn ... and the mudslinging starts.

I do try my best to ignore. And I have gotten better at it. But I cant always ignore or laugh it off - its not a voluntary thing for me either. I dont want to explain further as it just gives ammunition to some to continue this.

I guess one thing I do have as part of my personality is forgive and forget. I rarely "stay upset" ... I'd rather move on. But when I do get upset, I quickly escalate and I'm sure some must think I've lost it. LOL. But in an hour or two, and for sure the next day, its over. I think I dont hold grudges.

But I understand that this is me ... and that some others take longer to forgive and forget. Some I dont think can.

What more can I say. I'm not a nasty person. I come to chat to meet others. I like to joke back and forth, tease, find interesting guys I can connect with. And connect intellectually. I gave up looking for the other type of connection a long time ago, LOL. I'm happy with me and who I am. As is my significant other.

Oh I'm sure this posting will probably bring out lots of "ugly comments" from some chatters. But in case it hasnt been noticed - I havent mentioned a single specific person in this posting. And none are infered either.

So like I said earlier ... I'm going about my business, this stuff in forums has taken up too much time and energy, and what for? LOL.

Oh - Merry Christmas, Season Greetings, Live Long and Prosper, (insert suitable greeting here). :) All the Best to one and all, and I mean one and all!

[cowboy]

Thanks for your explanation Tony. :) I am glad "things" have calmed down somewhat. I find, and I am as much to blame, that this bashing, name stealing, cloning, that after a while takes on a life of its own. And other issues get dragged into it. Then words are exchanged ... battle lines get drawn ... and the mudslinging starts.

I do try my best to ignore. And I have gotten better at it. But I cant always ignore or laugh it off - its not a voluntary thing for me either. I dont want to explain further as it just gives ammunition to some to continue this.

I guess one thing I do have as part of my personality is forgive and forget. I rarely "stay upset" ... I'd rather move on. But when I do get upset, I quickly escalate and I'm sure some must think I've lost it. LOL. But in an hour or two, and for sure the next day, its over. I think I dont hold grudges.

But I understand that this is me ... and that some others take longer to forgive and forget. Some I dont think can.

What more can I say. I'm not a nasty person. I come to chat to meet others. I like to joke back and forth, tease, find interesting guys I can connect with. And connect intellectually. I gave up looking for the other type of connection a long time ago, LOL. I'm happy with me and who I am. As is my significant other.

Oh I'm sure this posting will probably bring out lots of "ugly comments" from some chatters. But in case it hasnt been noticed - I havent mentioned a single specific person in this posting. And none are infered either.

So like I said earlier ... I'm going about my business, this stuff in forums has taken up too much time and energy, and what for? LOL.

Oh - Merry Christmas, Season Greetings, Live Long and Prosper, (insert suitable greeting here). :) All the Best to one and all, and I mean one and all!
DID I READ THIS RIGHT???,,,
you maybe able to fool some dave,,,but we.ve seen you in room,,
we;ve seen the "piss off;s and the fu,off;s,",and the backstabbin you did,to everyone, so dont play innocent,,ok,,perhaps now you will realize if you stop the name games and the comments,,things might get better,,,(we can only hope),,and thats advice from a regular,who knows the real truth about ppl in room and more,!!!

[dave 851]

DID I READ THIS RIGHT???,,,
you maybe able to fool some dave,,,but we.ve seen you in room,,
we;ve seen the "piss off;s and the fu,off;s,",and the backstabbin you did,to everyone, so dont play innocent,,ok,,perhaps now you will realize if you stop the name games and the comments,,things might get better,,,(we can only hope),,and thats advice from a regular,who knows the real truth about ppl in room and more,!!!

Merry Christmas Cowboy :) I hope u have a wonderful, restful, joyous Christmas time. :) And I wish you all the best in the new year.

[dave 851]

Merry Christmas Cowboy. I hope u have a joyous holiday with family and friends

[cowboy]

Merry Christmas Cowboy. I hope u have a joyous holiday with family and friends
,,well merry xmas and a happy new year to u too dave 851 ( dace ,,digger,,,or wut ever name you keep changing too),,,and your wife,,,kids,,,and grand-child,,,,,,your bf nemmy,,and your best friend bashie,,
hahahahahahaha,,,

[James]

Behave little man!:)

[cowboy]

Behave little man!:)
WUT???? ,,,,,,,HAHAHAHAHAHAHHA,,,,,( AS IF THAT DOES ANYTHING HAHAHAHA

[James]

Keep on little man.:)

[Minx :_P]

I thought cat-fighting was my specialty, oh well, there is an ignore icon, do threats and insults matter to someone who doesn't care ?

[Gaeilge]

I thought cat-fighting was my specialty, oh well, there is an ignore icon, do threats and insults matter to someone who doesn't care ?
I think a lot of gay people love the drama. :p

[dave 851]

I think a lot of gay people love the drama. :p

:cool: I'm only replying to this so I can increase my postings :D

[Gaeilge]

LOL .

[Nikii]

:cool: I'm only replying to this so I can increase my postings :D

Dave ... sorry u seem to have gotten 'dragged' into this 'thing' with 'cowboy' and 'cowgirl'. U sound sexy ;) If u is in TO look me up.

[James]

lol As if!

[dave 851]

Dave ... sorry u seem to have gotten 'dragged' into this 'thing' with 'cowboy' and 'cowgirl'. U sound sexy ;) If u is in TO look me up.
np niki - not to worry

[Gaeilge]

OMG I made a post and it disappeared.

:eek:

:mad:

[Justin.Andrews88]

I think the only way to really stop it is to force people to register. That way if someone gets out of hand you have a way of warning them or disabling their login and also allow users to block ignore certain users so that their BS doesn't affect legitimate chatting.

Unfortunately there is always those people out there that are out to spoil it for others.

Justin

[Charmed]

We know this is a big proble in the chat room and we are trying to do something about it. We are in the room for shorter or longer periods every night, kicking out people that disturb or bash other users. Since we have the ability to go into the room in a 'hidden' mode we prefer doing this for the time being. In that way we are trying to draw a picture of whats going on so we can protect the chat better in the future.

Who is 'we'? Maybe 'we' should register in the forum and you create a Chat Moderator usergroup so the chat members can PM 'we' if someone is causing trouble.

Or, maybe you could possibly hire up Chat Mods to cover different Timezones?