Confused about her boyfriend's sexuality

[spreadeagle]

One sure-fire way for a woman to sabotage her relationship with her man is to keep asking,'What are you thinking?' If your boyfriend feels no compulsion to label or pigeonhole himself, then why do you feel you need to do it for him?
But I'm afraid I could be missing something here: your best friend, and you have sex with him too!!!! What more could any woman want?

[Unregistered]

Sometimes you feel like a duck sometimes you Don't..

or

If it walks like a duck , maybe he is a duck!

[guy in Iraq]

I have been dating my GF for about 7 years now. I am 31 and she is 24 She has known since day 1 that I was not your average guy. Last month I had to come out to her and tell her about my deep desire for sex with men! Though suprised she is very supportive and seemingly eager to bring another man into our bedroom. When I told her that I also wanted to do it away on my own she was reluctant but supportive of that as well. She is a very understanding and caring person, but yesterday she started questioning weather or not I might be gay. I explained to her that I dont think I am gay as I love having sex with her. It is just that there is something about sex with men that is very pleasurable as well. I am a very manly man and I dont think anyone would even guess this of me. To be honest she has me wondering now. I wish she would have left this one alone :)

[spreadeagle]

G'day mate,

Don't you think that any self-questioning we do is worthwhile so long as it ultimately brings us to a deeper understanding of ourselves? Since Kinsey is 'up' at the moment it might be worthwhile reviewing the scale or continuum he suggested with exclusive heterosexuality at one end and exclusive homosexuality at the other. Every person can position themselves on the scale according to where they feel most comfortable. I think his point was not that we need to compare ourselves with others in order to ascertain our validity, so much as to reassure us that we are all unique individuals and that's perfectly ok.

It seems to me that one of the issues bisexual people have to consider is that of exclusivity or monogamy. If you enjoy sex with both genders there may well be the sense of having to sacrifice or miss out on something when you commit to a single person. Though of course every commited couple, gay, straightor whatever, need to face this issue too. But perhaps for bisexuals there is twice the temptation to resist. Or succumb to. (Isn't suck-cum a hot word!)

Her biggest fear at the moment is the risk of losing you, and the seven years input into a relationship. It's understandable with you away, and in an ultra-masculine environment, that she's feeling a bit nervous. She won't want to be frozen out. In the final analysis, what you choose to call yourself is not really the point; they're just labels. What matters is the quality of the relationship you have together and how successfully it meets both your needs. I hope you find what you're looking for.

Happy New Year
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