I love women but ...

[Unregistered]

I concider myself straight as I have never had a relationship with a man, and would never want a emotional relationship with a man. I am totally sexually attracted to every part of the female body and mind, but ...

I think I could be BI as I often fantasize about sucking a friend of mine's penis. Oh yeah, once when I was much younger I actually did suck another friend of mine's penis and I did enjoy as he did to, but that was more of an experimental thing that we later pretended it never happened and are still good friends.

Anyways, I hardly ever think about being gay with anyone except for this other friend of mine that I have known since we were kids. It doesn't really excite me to think about having sex with just any man, but for some reason I always fantasize about sucking his (my friend's) cock. I find myself mastubating more often to that fantasy lately since I moved farther away from him. I guess it's just a fantasy becuase I would really like pleasure him, but I don't like to think about having a relationship with a man as that is just not for me.

Am a strange breed?, or do ther guys have gay fantasies about their best friends like this? I swear if we were together once, and he let me I would suck him off in a new York minute, but I could never bring myself to ask him.
I have heard him make remarks before when we were drunk about him wanting to try being gay once, and I know he is a big pervert like me, but i could never live with the embaressment if I ask him and he turned me down.

I guess I just keep jerking off to the fantasy, but boy it would be nice to actually do it to him.

is their a safe/easy way to find out if he might concider letting me blow him, or do you think I should just forget about it all together?

Do most straight men object to letting another man suck their dick I wonder also?

[spreadeagle]

Well the classic straight-dude thing to do is go off on a hiking-fishing cabin-in-the mountains trip together. You get drunk (make sure he's drunker), smoke some dope, tell him how horny you are then flop it out and start jacking.

I think most guys don't object to having their dick sucked by another man so long as there's no fear of discovery.

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I have also had a similar fantasy about sucking someone off. The only difference is I don't want it to be any of my friends or anyone that knows me. For the past year or so I have been wanting so badly to just pleasure a man the best that can. I don't even consider my self gay, I'm just a really horny guy. The thought of just sucking someone off is such a turn on for me that if I ever were to do it I really wouldn't even want anything in return. The perfect nite in my head would be for me to find someone who would let me do that to them, and just go at it for just as long as both of us can. I would serisily go at it until he told me to stop. Then just play it by ear afterwards. You know where I can find someone that wants a free blowjob.

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well,it seems very difficult to achieve that kind of relationship....ive been searching for that asexual intimacy just like hugging and dinner together....but it never came...ive been searching for a guy like that....now,im 40,i still look for the impossible......

[spreadeagle]

Hey mate,
I read your post again today and I've given it a bit more thought. From what you've said there are indications that he could be interested in some exploration too: he made drunken remarks about wanting to try being gay, and you say he is a big pervert.

You say you moved further away from him - I asume you mean physically and not emotionally further away - I hope you haven't moved too far. Here's what I'd do:I'd email him or call him and tell him that a guy at work has started coming on to you and want's to give you a blow job. Tell him that you've heard that guys give way better head than women, and ask him what you should do. From his response you should be able to tell his attitude towards one guy sucking off another. If he encourages you to go ahead then say that maybe you'll give it a go and you'll call him again to tell him how it pans out.

Don't call him back. Hopefully he'll call you full of curiosity. Suggest you meet up for a few drinks. Talk about other stuff and see if he brings the b/j up first. If he does tell him it was fucking incredible. Tell him that the dude dragged it out so long tongueing your slit, chewing your nuts, slurping your asshole and swallowing your knob down deep that when at last you came it nearly blew your brains out.

By this time your buddy'll either be throwing up thinking you're more of a perve than he'll ever be, or he'll be hard 'n' horny and gagging for a piece of the action himself. That's when you offer to show him how it was done.

Let us know if anything cums of it
Cheers
Spread

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I am a transvestite married , wife knows and is accepting of my dressing and until maybe the last few years considered myself a heterosexual. Lately all I can do is think about men, at first It would only be if I were dressed up and horny. But it has gotten to the point that I don't need to be en fem to want a man I could do him any time anyplace. I am not interested in being with another tranny but want a hot older masculine man. I often come here to the chat hoping to find someone that I could connect with and have gone as far as placing a personal ad looking for a date. I have come close to hooking up but seems after a few emails a flag goes up telling me that this is not the right guy. Any way I will continue my quest I know he is out there somewhere

[spreadeagle]

G'day

A flag goes up for me, too, when you tell me this.

Your wife accepts your cross-dressing which indicates that she is tolerant and understanding. I imagine that she loves you and values the marital relationship with you too much to let your transvestitism threaten it. But when you start actively seeking sexual contact outside the marriage it's a whole new ball game with so much more at stake. This would be a pertinent issue regardless of your dress preference or your sexual identity.

Do you cross dress only at home or do you go out as a woman?
Do you still have an active sexual life with your wife?
Are there any children involved?
Are you saying that you now identify as gay?

The answers to these questions mayhelp you decide whether it's time for a heart-to-heart discussion with your wife.

All the best
Spread

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Hello again spread,
Thank you for reading my post. Answering your questions , yes I have been out occasionally as a woman (and so loved it). Yes I am still actively sexual with my SO , I have even purchased a strap on that she will use on me when I want. Yes , child living home has idea of what I do. I guess the toughest question is do I consider myself gay? Being honest with myself I would say most definiately-- but not having actually been physically sexual with a man yet I don't know where the lines are drawn. I really wish I were not in this situation because I don't want to lose this relationship , we have built a nice life together however the feelings inside me never go away. If I ever met a man who completely swept me off my feet I'm not so sure I could resist him.
thanks for listening

[spreadeagle]

Hi,
So often unhappiness is a result of unrealsitic expectations - we believe (or hope) that we can have it all. But what are we to do when competing desires are in conflict - in your case the urge to give yourself sexually to another man versus the familiar comfortable security of a committed relationship with your wife and child? Are we to listen to the head, the heart, or the dick?

Since this is a problem that will affect you as a family it is perhaps more honourable to work on the solution as a family - you needn't handle this in isolation. The level to which you can trust in and show your vulnerability to your wife is the measure of your love for her. It's amazing the compromises we are able to make in order to accomodate the needs of a partner.

I think that on a quite basic level you need to decide what you want to achieve in your life; look at the commitments you have made: and then decide if you can get what you want without harming yoursefl or anyone else. It may be a matter of priorities and timing.

The Dalai Lama has a saying that I rather like - 'Measure your success by what you have to give up in order to achieve it.'

Love and Best Wishes
Spread

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Right, where to start!!

I am 29 y/o, who is a horny bastard!! I love women, boobs everything! Have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years, which i am totally happy with!

It all started about a year ago when i started having fantasies about sucking my hockey mates cock in the shower! It came out of the blue but i didn't think anything about it, i enjoyed the fantasies in my head and masterbated many times thinking about it!

I started looking at gay porn, which doesn't interest me! But i love looking at hard cocks, and cum!! I think a guy shooting his load, whether it was over a womans tits or face, or over another guys face or cock, got me going so much!

So i have becoming increasingly desperate to suck a cock for myself! I have found a site where people, male and female can look for casual sex for free!! So i have arranged to meet this guy tonight, he is 21 bi-curious, like myself, and just wants to experiment!

My girlfriend is out for the night, so i am looking forward to sucking my first cock!

I know i'm not gay, but don't have any problem calling myself bi-sexual!

I will let you know how it goes!

Thanks to spreadeagles posts, i am fully prepared for everything!

One thing i would like to know, what is the best technique for sucking a guys cock, to send him wild with excitement!!

Cheers
Dan