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[Unregistered]

Dear Max,

I'm a straight healthy male, married. I love women and everything about them attracts me. When I see guys, they don't really excite me or anything, sometimes, when I see a guy with nice body, I may compare his pecks or abs to mine, no more than that.
Only when I have few drinks, or get high, I relax, and sometimes fantasize about being with another guy, or in threesome. I've tried giving blowjob to a friend of mine, when we were both drunk, and I enjoyed it. We never spoke about it after and never felt weird about it. He enjoyed it too. Very rarely I think about trying anal sex, but again, it doesn't happen when I'm sober.
Does it mean, I'm very uptight about my desires and alcohol or stuff relaxes me and I let my guard down? Does it mean I'm bi?
Thank you.

[Unregistered]

man, you just need seem really fine pussy and tits

[spreadeagle]

G'day,

Who defines our sexualilty? Is it the society we live in or do we write the label ourselves? Why should our sexuality matter to anyone except the person we make love with?

One generally accepted view of human sexuality sees it as a continuum with exclusive heterosexuality at one end, exclusive homosexuality at the other end, and bisexuality in the middle. Many assume that our sexuality is fixed and unvariable but in fact our sexual orientation, or at least our sexual behaviour, can vary throughout our lifetime according to changing circumstances.

If every man who'd ever been sexually intimate with another man was defined as homosexual then there'd be very few heterosexuals indeed. Similarly, a man can define himself as gay but never have had sexual intimacy with another guy. In the end you have to make up your own mind.

Alcohol allows us to suspend judgement and to over-ride learned or imposed standards. Testosterone encourages us to indulge in risky behaviour and to get a thrill from playing with fire. Alcohol can also function as an excuse; when we're sober and we remember our aberrant behaviour we can blame the fact that we were drunk; it's a way of turning off the guilt. We conveniently forget that we were responsible for getting drunk in the first place.

You begin your post by saying that you're straight and married - if that's how you choose to define yourself that's great! You're a straight guy who likes to get it off with men from time to time. It doesn't have to mean anything unless you want it to. So far as being happily married goes, getting it off with a guy is a form of cheating - so the question of whether you can stay happily married and still do the kinky stuff is a whole other issue.

Cheers
Spread

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Another excellent post Spreadeagle. Keep at it.