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sallyluxe
January 10th, 2006, 11:13 AM
Hello,

I'm a 27 year old female, I live in Los Angeles and I'd like to adopt a gay dad.
I know this might sound a little strange, it is I guess a little strange. So, I'll explain it from the top.
Get ready for some reading!

My parent's divorced when I was only 5 months old. My mother won custody and to my father's great remorse I never really spent any time with him.
My mother, who I know now suffered from bipolarism, went out of her way to vilify my father. Calling him a rapist, physically abusive, basically she said some very horrible things to me about my father when I was too young to really process the information. So, I grew up in total fear of him.

My mother moved me to Los Angeles when I was 8. I didn't really see or hear from my dad again. When I was 20 my mother committed suicide, this left me free to find my father and really meet him. My father is a wonderful man. He's sweet, he loves me, he regrets all the time we didn't get to spend together. My dad is also a Jehovah's witness, a very devout one. I am a convert to Judaism. This is very upsetting for my father, it basically means to him that I'm dead. Unwilling to except "the truth".

I don't hate my father, we're just two very different people and I'm at an age when my life is starting to change. I'm beginning my adult life, my real adult life. My boyfriend is now my fiancee, my apartment is now my house, my job is now my career. I'd like a dad around for all of this.
My father has told me that he will not walk me down the aisle due to his religious beliefs. I don't think he's a monster, but I do wish that I had a father around who could really be a part of my life.

My goal is to find a surrogate father. Someone who would love to walk me down the aisle, be a grandpa to my future kids, talk about politics, see exhibits at the MOCA, invite to dinner once in awhile, go walking with me and my dogs and be a part of my life. Also, let me be a part of yours.

I hope I'm not disrupting anyone and I hope I'm not offending anyone. I'm open to any feedback anyone would like to give me. Also, just for the record, I'm not looking for money or anything like that and I'm not looking for a legal "adoption" just a personal relationship.

I hope I'm not leaving anything too important out. Feel free to mail me with any questions I probably missed. I appreciate your attention.

Thanks!

Sally

:)

Unregistered
January 10th, 2006, 09:25 PM
First, if you want people to contact you, better leave an e-mail address. Second, why don't you just get a blow-up doll and stick a Dad tag on it. Sounds like you would want a Ken doll for a bf or hubby if you swung that way.

sallyluxe
January 11th, 2006, 04:45 PM
First, if you want people to contact you, better leave an e-mail address. Second, why don't you just get a blow-up doll and stick a Dad tag on it. Sounds like you would want a Ken doll for a bf or hubby if you swung that way.


First, you can email me by clicking my name at the top of the post.

Second, why don't you go just slap an "Ass" tag on yourself.

Unregistered
January 16th, 2006, 03:39 AM
Why don't you go cry a river about not having a dream dad elsewhere

Sexyrobert69
January 16th, 2006, 10:31 PM
Hi if you look for gay dad I am here ... I am very good at that...

Sexyrobert69
January 17th, 2006, 02:26 PM
When dealing with the issue at hand you have to remember societies comback and ignore it at same time.. Perfectly fine to want to find a Gay Dad. You will find one suitable for you. You can go to other chat rooms and try to find one... but you will.

Brokeback Mountainman
January 18th, 2006, 12:46 PM
I'm a Brokeback Mountainman. Ready to talk. Call me in the Gay Bay.
Phone me at ********. (no phone numbers on the forum, please.

Mountainman from the Gay Bay

Unregistered
January 24th, 2006, 11:59 PM
May I suggest you contact the support network for GLBT former & active Jehovah's Witnesses called A Common Bond. They'll understand your having a Jehovah's Witness father and what you're going through. The website is: http://www.gayxjw.org/