spreadeagle
July 10th, 2005, 02:36 PM
Hi Sexy Lady,
Your needs are not being met in this relationship and you don’t sound like the sort of woman who’d rather have a new vacuum cleaner than an orgasm. When he tries to substitute household gadgets for sex the subtext is: ’Hey, I may not be so good in bed, but at least I’m a good provider.’ Well, a woman only needs so many Hoovers.
There seems to be increasing evidence of a genetic component to homosexuality so if his brother is gay then the chances are that he is too. People don’t change, especially where something as fundamental as sexual preference is concerned. Ultimately, we need to assess others on their actions rather than their words – the road to Hell is paved with good intentions. If this is the level of his love-making in the early days when you might expect the fireworks to be intense, then it’s unlikely to be any hotter two years down the track. ‘Trying to be better’ isn’t going to work.
You show great sense in putting your finger on the problem this early in the relationship; four months is not such a long time. If you want to persevere then you need considerably more honesty from him and a series of visits with a qualified sex therapist. As things are now, it’s clearly not working for you. Your happiness is at stake and action is required.
All the best
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Your needs are not being met in this relationship and you don’t sound like the sort of woman who’d rather have a new vacuum cleaner than an orgasm. When he tries to substitute household gadgets for sex the subtext is: ’Hey, I may not be so good in bed, but at least I’m a good provider.’ Well, a woman only needs so many Hoovers.
There seems to be increasing evidence of a genetic component to homosexuality so if his brother is gay then the chances are that he is too. People don’t change, especially where something as fundamental as sexual preference is concerned. Ultimately, we need to assess others on their actions rather than their words – the road to Hell is paved with good intentions. If this is the level of his love-making in the early days when you might expect the fireworks to be intense, then it’s unlikely to be any hotter two years down the track. ‘Trying to be better’ isn’t going to work.
You show great sense in putting your finger on the problem this early in the relationship; four months is not such a long time. If you want to persevere then you need considerably more honesty from him and a series of visits with a qualified sex therapist. As things are now, it’s clearly not working for you. Your happiness is at stake and action is required.
All the best
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