spreadeagle
January 23rd, 2005, 02:36 AM
Hey buddy,
Your gay/bi room-mate is probably aware that you and your straight room-mate are discussing his sexuality behind his back. It's also a possibility that he logs into Bgay and recognises his situation in your letter. Your lack of discretion can give him no encouragement to trust you with what may be, for him, a painful shameful secret.
If you want your relationship with him to be open free and trusting then the best thing you can do is to get your nose out of his groin and focus on all the other aspects of your relationship where his sexuality is not an issue. If you can ensure that the relationship works in more than one dimension then you increase the likelihood of it lasting and being rewarding for both of you.
At the moment your prurience suggests uncertainty about your own sexual identity; almost as if you need confirmation of his sexual choice in order to validate your own. Have you got a crush on him?
Take it easy, mate
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Your gay/bi room-mate is probably aware that you and your straight room-mate are discussing his sexuality behind his back. It's also a possibility that he logs into Bgay and recognises his situation in your letter. Your lack of discretion can give him no encouragement to trust you with what may be, for him, a painful shameful secret.
If you want your relationship with him to be open free and trusting then the best thing you can do is to get your nose out of his groin and focus on all the other aspects of your relationship where his sexuality is not an issue. If you can ensure that the relationship works in more than one dimension then you increase the likelihood of it lasting and being rewarding for both of you.
At the moment your prurience suggests uncertainty about your own sexual identity; almost as if you need confirmation of his sexual choice in order to validate your own. Have you got a crush on him?
Take it easy, mate
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