Finding fun in a war zone

[guy in Iraq]

I have been in Iraq for almost a year now. I have been all over the country here and have now settled down at one base. The problem is that I don't seem to have something I really really need in this situation "Gaydar". I am so tortured to be on a base of over 25,000 soldiers without the ability to pick out 1 from the crowd for some fun. Dose anyone have any ideas for me. I go to the gym every night yet still I am unable to pinpoint a guy that I feel comfortable approaching. Due to the circumstance here I really can't afford to approach someone and be wrong, That could be devistating! I am a good looking and fit guy I never thought I would have this much trouble picking out someone, especially in a crowd this big! Any help would be so greatly appreciated. Thanks for any help :confused:

[Unregistered]

All you have to do is watch for a smile. Don't be afraid to look around you while in the showers or in the gym. Catch a smile and chat a while and there's your catch.

[spreadeagle]

G’day mate,

I’m sorry if you’re feeling lonely and isolated. Your situation is made doubly difficult because of the increased homophobia implicit in a military context and the need to be more than usually discreet. Also, the usual rules of conduct for forming relationships in occupational and social contexts are necessarily blurred in the context of an army camp during a time of war. You will need to interpret suggestions made here in the light of circumstances that exist in the camp, circumstances that we cannot know with any certainty.

One of the first things you need to do is to review your daily routine and consider times and places when you are not under surveillance and where a sexual encounter, even if brief, could occur without fear of interruption. Do you have private space available to you? Can you wander round the camp at night? Does your work area have spaces over which you have control? Are there communal areas that are empty at certain times of day or night? What about your sleeping quarters? If there is such a space available then can you hide condoms and lube (maybe a blanket) there? In other words, ‘be prepared’.

I understand your concern that your gaydar isn’t working. This is nothing to do with you. It’s a function of the situation you’re in. However, it’s an absolute certainty that in a camp of 25,000 men, most of them in their physical prime, all of them in a situation where sudden death is a distinct possibility, and where the ratio of men to women is heavily weighted towards the masculine, and given your own physical attractiveness and availability, that there are literally hundreds of them who would eagerly have sex with you if secrecy and safety could be guaranteed. Hence the need to find that secure setting.

You don’t say if the camp had already been established before your arrival there. If so, try and make contact with guys who have been there longer. You’re not the only horny dude in the army and in all likelihood there’s a network of contacts already established that you can hook into.

You’ll need to try and establish these contacts in your free time, such as it is. You are right to frequent the gym. Are there any other places like ablution blocks, latrines, pool, sauna, where men are undressed or exposed in front of others? Be friendly and approachable. Offer to spot for other guys in the gym or ask them to help you. In the showers glance sideways and maintain a semi-hard-on but without earning yourself a sleazy rep – it’s a fine line, I know. Since you have a nice body, don’t be afraid to pose a little or to drop the soap from time to time.

If there’s a canteen serving alcohol hang out there but don’t get drunk. When guys are drunk and their defenses are down it’s easier to steer the talk around to how horny they are. You might have more luck with younger, single guys and guys with a higher educational level. It’s guaranteed that most of these dudes are jacking most days. It’s always better to make friends first and then broaden the friendship to include greater degrees of intimacy. The alternative, a hurried anonymous grope and blow, offers no more pleasure, but considerably more risk, than a solo jacking.

Are you ever out of uniform? Consider wearing an emblem like a rainbow badge or an AIDS ribbon. This is specific enough to signal possible interest to other men-who-have-sex-with-men but general enough to be able to deflect any aggressive or suspicious inquiries.

Have you got any massage skills? Since you’re all in a stressful situation this sort of physical therapy should be seen as performance enhancing. You could let it be known that you need a back-rub and ask if anyone wants a swap. Put a card up in the gym. Be prepared for nothing to happen but at least you can get your hands on another man. When he’s massaging you and you get a stiffy just say ‘sorry buddy, I’m just so damn horny, must be your magic touch’ and see where that leads you.

Mate, I hope some of these ideas bear fruit. Keep in touch and let us know how you get on. Hope 2005 is a great year for you.

All the best, buddy,
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[guy in Iraq]

I am actually a contractor here with my own quarters and vehicle. The gym here doesn't have showers nor are there any places where men are undressed together as such. This alone makes it very tough. Most of the guys here travel in packs so trying to catch one alone is a little tough. I am very prepared as far as my room now it is just to discreetly lure me a hunk! I have been gettting around but I just haven't found that particular occassion yet. Thanks for all the help. I need all I can get I feel. Guy in Iraq

[Unregistered]

Hi, I am in Baghdad and my situation is almost exactly the same as yours. I have the same problems sorting out the possibles from those who would blow the whistle on you. If we are near each other, maybe we can talk sometime.

[Unregistered]

I have been here 2 years now. Still very little luck. I am in Balad but if I ever get down there I would love the chance to chat. let me know how to get a hold of you.

[Unregistered]

why done u guys just try to have a special meal that u add so powder to that is what i had to do and it brought my sex additon way done my email is musicman82892@yahoo.com

[Unregistered]

Hey to anyone monitoring this thread....I am in the international zone in Iraq looking for something....let me know at this site with an email.....I am kinda shy about giving out mine...

[Unregistered]

If your in or around Baghdad, email me at: a_super_secret_email@hotmail.com
and maybe we can meet up sometime.....

[Unregistered]

now you guys do realize that this is a sting being run by the provost marshal, so don't fall for it