So confused

[Known2Be]

I'm only a freshman in High School, but I already know that I'm bi. I'm so confused. I want to tell my parents, but I don't know how, and I don't want anyone else to find out. I don't know how to handle this right now, because it's putting so much pressure on me. And then there's this guy that keeps calling me fat, retarded, and gay. He means it so offensively, and I wish he would stop. It's not that I take it as an offense, but I know that it's partially true. I need help, I'm so confused.

[Jess Kalinowsky]

Bi Boy in high school, DO NOT TELL YOUR PARENTS, yet!

At the very minimum, wait until you are out of High School and have some means of supporting yourself. Parents reactions can have a very wide range!
From kicking you out of the house, and that means not paying for College!
or maybe, just maybe them 'accepting' you are you are. Keep your mouth shut on the subject. Do not lie to them. But do not volunteer any information! Do not tell anyone at all unless you are 1000% sure they can be trusted. School officials are obligated to tell your parents. Friends may squeal on you and tell someone who will tell someone who will tell someone. Bite the bullet for the moment. Concentrate on your studies and make incredible grades so you can get into college, hopefully with Mom and Dad footing the bill. Maybe try to find a chapter of PFLAG* and go and talk to one of those adults, with the clear understanding they will not tell your parents. And most of all, if you are sexually active, read everything possible about how to protect yourself from STD's or worse, AIDS. High school will be over faster than you can imagine. *Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays.
Hang on! it will all be OK, I promise. I never told my folks, and they went to their grave without me ever discussing it with them. Why hurt them unnecessarily???

[cowboy]

I'm only a freshman in High School, but I already know that I'm bi. I'm so confused. I want to tell my parents, but I don't know how, and I don't want anyone else to find out. I don't know how to handle this right now, because it's putting so much pressure on me. And then there's this guy that keeps calling me fat, retarded, and gay. He means it so offensively, and I wish he would stop. It's not that I take it as an offense, but I know that it's partially true. I need help, I'm so confused.
Like the other posting, I AGREE dont say anything until you have a mature outlook on life and can handle these things. Right now at your age you are going thru too many other emotions, school, sexual, studies ,and you have to deal with these things first.
There is no rush" deal with your sexuallity later, when you can understand the full meaning and handle relationships more on a mature level. Telling anyone right now just adds" more on or plate" more worry, more stress,,
One way I look at things is " remember when there was something that you thought worried you,,,5 years ago?,,,can you even remember it now?"
Things always change, including today's problems. hang in there ! good luck, it will get better,,,and in years ahead. you;ll think back and say " what was I so worried about !

[Justin.Andrews88]

I agree 100% also. Wait until you have graduated HS at least. I waited until my senior year and then my Mom came to me because I was stupid and left a bit of a internet trail on my computer. I was LUCKY and have awesome parents. They have shown me nothing but unconditional love and while they have always expressed caution and safety, they have supported me.

Just hang in there. Use this time to read and learn more about what being bi and homosexual means and also to learn more about yourself.

Good Luck. Send me a note if you'd like to chat sometime about this.

Justin