RE: Is there a way of telling if a guy is a virgin?

[pride7]

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[BEACHGUY]

There is no way. When you are hot and horny with the most straight guy (as I was the first time getting it anally) you are as succeptible as a female virgin of letting the penis in, no matter how big and how much it hurts. I am very well endowed, and I have never forced myself onto anyone. Men relax as much as a woman and are as curious to have their anus explored as most all men are. I find the most masculine guys like to take it anally and I have never met a virgin male who didn't perform fellatio better than ANY girl the first time he tried....and I mean straight.Men are as curious about cocks as women are their clitoris'. Amazing.

[spreadeagle]

An inphallible test for virgins

Concern over whether a sexual partner, usually a bride, is a virgin has been a focus of both Eastern and Western literary tradition for centuries. In a patriarchal, heterosexual context where women and their offspring were regarded as chattels and where property was bequeathed to male descendants, the need to ensure that a new wife had not previously given birth to children who might pose a future threat was seen as paramount.

Why the virginity of a sex-partner should be important in a homosexual context is unclear. Perhaps unfortunately, anal intercourse is granted a holy-grail status in gay culture. This has guys feeling that they’re not really gay till they’ve been fucked and that they’ve failed if they don’t enjoy it. It pressures lovers to define themselves in terms of ‘top’ or ‘bottom’, as if they are never allowed to deviate from some rigidly defined prescription for sexual behaviour, which is surely our main objection about the way we have been treated by the heterosexual mainstream. However, let’s define a gay virgin as a guy who has never had sexual intercourse, either as a penetrative or a receptive partner, and then imagine some reasons why it might be an issue.

Could a guy’s virginity be a guarantee of sexual purity and innocence? Unfortunately, because of the variety of ways in which STD’s and HIV/AIDS may be transmitted, male virginity, even if it could be determined, is no guarantee of the sexual health of a prospective partner. Innocence is a rare commodity nowadays. Almost all guys are jacking before or soon after puberty.

Does a tight virgin asshole enhance the pleasure for the ‘initiator’? Well, a tight asshole does not guarantee virginity, nor does virginity guarantee a tight asshole. A guy might be tight because he is tense or unwilling, because the fucker has a big dick, because they are not well lubed, or because it’s a long time since he was last fucked. Tightness is not necessarily consistent with pleasure for the guy being rooted so you have to question the mindset of the guy who’s more concerned with taking pleasure than giving it. This seems to relate to the arrogant heterosexual pattern of the fucker dominating, deflowering and possessing the fuckee. It’s a notch-in-the-belt mentality that endows the top with a spurious masculinity.

Is losing anal virginity an important gay rite-of-passage? Yes. But for reasons of nerves and the clumsiness or eagerness associated with ‘the first time’, sexual pleasure is likely to increase later on with more experience.

Having said that, and if it still matters to you, there is an easy way to tell if a guy is a virgin. All you have to do is ask him. If you can’t rely on his answer then why are you rushing into intimate sex with him before mutual trust and respect have been established?

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