Don’t Go Breaking My Heart
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We as gay men have no examples to live by. We have no role models. We don’t have the Ward and June Cleaver’s of the world to tell us how relationships are supposed to work. Parents set the tone for children. The way Mommy and Daddy live their relationship is more than likely the way junior will grow up to live his. But that’s provided Junior ends up with a Juniorette. And not with another Junior.

And “Will and Grace” and “QAF” are not examples of anything but dysfunction. Don’t get me wrong, having Gay and Lesbian characters on Television is fantastic – but I’m not learning anything except how to screw up my life completely.

So where do we look for our role models? We don’t. And that’s why my therapist drives a Benz.

I think the message is clear. You are number 1. That may sound cliché but it’s really quite true. Or it should be. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t love anyone else. The only way you can have a truly healthy and happy relationship with another person, is if you have one with yourself.

So Bob. Tell Dick to take a hike. He’s SO not up to the task.

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