3 years ago I was diagnosed with Hep B (I had no symptoms until massive swelling began). After an initial doctors visit and a referral to a gastroenterologist I found that I had end stage liver disease. I was evaluated and placed on the transplant list at Vanderbilt University Hospital (Nashville, TN). After my med regime was regulated I have maintained the same status of health with the Hep B being barely detectable and my liver having no further damage done to it. So, the Hp B was controlled. However, with the symptoms of liver disease coupled with the side effects of many of my meds, I am now not the man I was. I lost all muscle mass (atrophy) in my arms and legs and torso, I have put on 50-60 pounds (due to being inactive and the fact that some gain weight, while others lose weight). I am single and still have desire to have a companion, but, I am also left with a very low libido, and erectile dysfunction due to the disease and meds. I haven't lost the mental need but I can't offer the physical needs that most men want. Would you say that I am stuck with this and I should just give up until after I have the transplant (that could be anywhere from 2-8 years, depending on my declining health) OR can you help me come up with a way to meet a man that wants romance, likes oral stimulation, and isn't afraid of the word disability and what it implies (I am only bringing in social security benefit checks...very little money per month). Can you give me some advice Max? I have been honest with guys and they go running. I have withheld info but then it comes time for more intimacy and I have to tell them I can't deliver the way they want. What should I do Max?

 

Honesty is always the best way to go.   I congratulate you for being strong and for taking time to ask for help. It is very hard to find someone to love no matter how your health is. But I believe there is always someone for everyone.  How to find that special person? just put yourself out there. Exposure is the key.  Don't just stay home feeling sorry for yourself.   BGay.com offers a lot of ways to meet people. You can go to the chat rooms, you can place personal ads. Get really involved  in the gay community.   You can also go to support groups in your town.  Help is everywhere.  So take advantage of every support group in your town and meet people.   No matter how sexy you are or how healthy you are. Some guys will run, some will like you, some will stay.  We all have to go through that and you are not the exception.  So be yourself, be strong and most of all...be persistent.  That special person who will love you the way you are is just around the corner.  Good luck! Hep B  support Group in Tennessee: The Nashville Hep Support group is currently forming. For more information, contact Jim Nevels at (502)886-2754 or email: vgnevels@hop-uky.campus.mci.net More support groups: SUPPORT GROUPS Helping people in the same situation as you are may be the best way to realize you are not the only one suffering.