My partner and I have been together for the past 7 years. Recently, he has been addicted to a gay "meat market" site where locals chat, hook up, what ever.

The other day I received a phone call from somebody who would not identify themselves telling me to look at my partners profile, and then hung up. I did look at his profile and wasn't really surprised at what I seen except for he was seeking: friends, chat, action, sex.

When I told my partner about the phone call, and about seeing his profile, he denied that he has met anybody in person and that he loves me very much. I asked him to remove the seeking action and sex. He did so.

Here it is about a week later, and my partner is still spending long amounts of time on this site chatting, and has just started bowling on a weekly league with people from this "meat market".

I am frustrated, since this is totally out of character for him, and he has never seemed interested in this type of room in the last seven years. It is all new, and I don't know what to do.

I don't want to lose him, but if I have to compete with his "friends" from the internet I don't know that I really have a choice but to move on. What's your opinion?

 

You feel  the trust has been broken because your boyfriend has been doing things behind your back.   Once the trust is broken is very hard to get it back.  You both have to be honest with each other and talk about what is really going on.   It is better to move on than to have a relationship with someone who does not want to be in one.  So talk it over with your partner and see where he stands.  If he decides that he still wants to be committed, then tell him all the things he is doing and how that makes you feel.   You also need to understand that  people need to have friends and need to have safe fun outside the relationship to make your relationship work.  Remember you are two individuals who are together in love. So don't expect him to lose his identity and even worse, don't lose your identity to be with him.     Good luck!