I met this guy two years ago. We run within the same social circle. Neither of us are in a committed relationship, but both of us are involved with somebody else. We get together for that occasional... you know...romp in the sack. We both understand that this is just a physical thing that is between us. Nothing more. I shared my secret rendezvous with him with my best friend. But my friend seems to think the two of us are more than just hook-up buddies. My friend told me that having a friend with benefits is just a relationship that's undercover. I don't think so, but now I'm beginning to wonder. Is it okay to have a "friend with benefits"? Or am I in a undercover relationship like my friend claims?

 

The sad truth about having a friend with benefits is that after having fun and  sex for a while, one of them always starts having feelings for the other one. I say sad because in most of the cases, that person ends up getting really hurt.  By you wondering about your friendship with benefits being a relationship undercover means that you are starting to have feelings for this person. So be careful.    The best relationships are the ones that you don't have to hide.