I have a problem, I'm in a very confused situation. I have been engaged to a woman for about 4 years and all my life I've been ignoring the signs that I was attracted to men. Now, my attraction to men is strong but I am still attracted to women but not as much. The thing is I don't have the courage or the heart to break my fiancée's heart.  I do want to experience sexual intercourse with another men. Sometime I'll have dreams about having sex with other men and they feel so realistic and when I wake up I have this urge to have sex with a man. I know that I'm the one who has to make the decision but a bit of help would be appreciated. thanx.

 

If you don't have the heart to tell her, at least have the balls to be honest with her.  She deserves someone who is going to love her and be faithful to her. What you are doing is keeping her from meeting the right man for her.  You may break her heart and she may cry at the beginning, but when she realizes you were honest to her out of love, she will thank you forever.