Me and my boyfriend are both virgins. We both tried to have anal sex, but it hurt so bad that he had stop. And the same happened when I tried to be on top, so we said it's not for us?? help!!

 

Anal sex is not the only type of sex you can have. You can also enjoy oral sex, masturbation,  role playing, etc...  The important thing is to find something that you both enjoy so you can connect in a more intimate way.  If you still want to try anal sex, you really have to practice a lot before you can enjoy it.  The key is to relax your body and to focus on the pleasure rather than the pain. Good luck and remember to always play safe by using condoms.