I am one of those idiots who for many years stated that love was not for him. A few months ago, I realized that I had fallen hard for a man and was ready to commit, just as he wanted. However, I have been living with another great guy who understood then the limits of our relationship but was always hoping for more and thought that he had the rights of first refusal. I am feeling like a heel for I was unable to discover or develop feelings for the one who was there and became my best friend. And I would have to ask him to leave my house to make room for the one I would like to be for always. I'm so confused and unwilling to hurt anyone. Can you help? Thank you.

 

Honesty is always the best way to live life.  Find out who will make you happy and who you really love and select that one.  The other guy will be hurt, but will always find someone else. He may even find someone else faster than you think possible.  So the key here is to listen to your heart to find out who is the lucky guy.  Love is very hard to find. Once you find it, you have to protect it and enjoy it as much as possible. Good luck!