A couple of years ago I figured out I'm gay. Being the shy person I am, and a little self conscious about how to approach another guy, I never had any experiences. So for the past bunch of years, I've only ever gotten off with the help of porn. I didn't always have porn, but I'd have to say at least 90% of the time I'd go all the way to ejaculation it was with the stimuli of some sort of porn. Well recently I met this really great guy. He's mature and experienced, and he is really understanding about my newbie ness. He is gentle and is taking it slow with me. I can get him off real easy,  apparently I'm a natural at giving oral lol. He gave me oral too, and a hand job, the problem is, it felt absolutely fantastic, but I never reached the point of cumming. We went on for a while until he couldn't last, and was spent. But all I got was hard and it felt good. But I never reached the climax point and as soon as he was done not even looking at him helped, nor trying to finish myself, it was as if my desire just drained out. I am attracted to him, because thinking about him starts to get me excited, and again he was able to get me up pretty easy. What is wrong? It's embarrassing, especially with a new person. I was extremely nervous as it was my first time with a real guy, I'm thinking it might be that... But do you think it could also be the fact that I have used porn for so long before this? When alone, I do find it extremely hard to get off without it. I'm scared to do it again with him, as I don't want to not climax again and have him not want to go again with me.

 

There's nothing wrong with you. You just take longer to climax than he does. When he cums fast, you feel guilty and then your body shuts down.  It is a reaction you have to break.   When you are alone, you are relaxed and you know how to please yourself.  Porn just helps you get in the mood.  When you are with another person, you concentrate more on that person than your own body. So what you need to do is relax and concentrate on your body.  Even if it takes long, just don't stop until you cum.  With time, your body will relax and will get the idea.  You may need more stimulation than your partner is giving you. So if porn is making you cum quicker, ask your partner or surprise him by playing an adult video while you are doing it.  You may also bring extra toys if you want. Anything is valid when you are having sex as long as both of you are consenting adults.  Pay attention to see what part of your body you are touching that makes you hot and do the samething while you are with your partner. Even better, ask him to touch those special places and concentrate on the sensation.  Sometimes, watching a little porn before doing it helps.  It is your body and you know how to get you hot. So do it in front of your partner. Remember, it is not a race. It is not about how fast you can cum. It is about two people sharing their sensations and that's HOT!