I don't know how to say this other than just come out with it. I am a 36 year old gay man who has been celibate for the past 10 years. Even though I do have sexual desires, I have chosen not to act upon them, not until I am in a committed relationship. The thing is, I am not really looking for anyone to be committed to. I had a rather active sex life before I became celibate, but I was never the typical kind of guy who had have sex every time the wind blew between my legs. Don't get me wrong, I have my moments when I really want to go out and have a one night stand, but I never act on the urge. A few of my friends have tried setting me up on dates, but things don't work out, or I simply refuse to go through with them because I want to meet that right somebody on my own. And believe me, some of the guys that my friends have tried setting me up with are hotties. I just don't place having someone in my life in such a high priority as others. No, I am not some obese and slovenly individual, nor am I the need to be the center of attention type of guy. So getting laid isn't a problem. I am just genuinely not looking for anyone, but not totally closed off to the possibility of being with someone. The only thing I have come up with is, I just am happy being alone. As long as I can continue having my family and friends in my life, work, and live comfortable, I am content with how things are for the moment. Is this normal for some men, a gay man at that, to basically be uninterested in sex? Am I the exception to the rule? Any advice you can give, I would really appreciate it.

 

Sounds like you are not alone. You have your family and friends. That's the perfect combination to be happy and it sounds like you are. Good for you!   Sex is not everything but LOVE is.  You are surrounded by love so you are doing something right.   Good luck!