My husband, Tom, and his boss, Jim, go to Key West twice each year - by themselves. They also attend baseball games and other events together. My husband hasn't been interested in sex for the last four(!!) years. I am an attractive woman and never at a loss for attention from other men. Is there a chance he is gay and just hasn't told me after all these years? I once brought up a hypothetical situation where a woman found out her husband was gay and divorced him immediately. He asked several nervous questions about whether it was someone he knew, close to us, etc. (We have two children, by the way.) I am considering divorce. Please advise.

 

Just because he does not want to have sex with you or goes to Key West with his boss, does not make him gay.   The problem  here is that you are not happy.   Talk to him and try to find a solution to your problems by seeking a marriage counselor.  Sometimes, counselors help couples communicate better.   Try to work it out for the sake of your children.   If you feel like you have done everything and can't go on anymore, then a divorce may be the right way for you.   Listen to your gut feeling and do everything in your power to be happy. Because if you are happy, your children will be happy.  You only live once!  Good luck!