This is the situation, and I will try to keep it as short and as simple as possible. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over three years. And to me, things have been going well. We have had a few scrapes, but have always managed to work things out. About two months ago, my boyfriend brought up the idea of including a third into the bedroom. I was hesitant at first, because he is the only guy I have ever been with. We mutually decided to have our first threesome. We hooked up one night with a friend of both of ours. As far as I knew, he had never hooked up with him, and certainly not me, because like I said, my boyfriend was my first. The thing is, during the time the three of us were doing our thing, I noticed that the two of them were very in tuned with each others bodies. You kind of like the way my boyfriend and I are. I don't want to be too graphic, but as I was entered by the other guy, our friend made the comment to my boyfriend of how right he was about certain things that was being done. I basically went along with what was going from that moment on. I felt more like it was being used, rather than being apart of what was going on. Afterwards, I had the funny suspicions that something had been going on between my boyfriend and our respected friend, that I didn't have a clue about. A month ago, I questioned my boyfriend about it, and he came clean and told they had indeed hooked up a few times, when we first began dating, and getting together every so often after we became serious. He told me that he feels nothing for him, it's just a sexual thing, nothing more. Since he told me that, I have not allowed him to touch me. I feel that if I am not enough to satisfy him sexually, then why be with me in the first place. I know it was a stupid thing to do, by including the third person in the bedroom, even for the sake of making someone happy. I want to end this relationship, because now I feel used and deceived by the both of them. The funny thing is, I still want to keep his friendship, but I just don't feel the depth of love that I used to feel for him. Do you think I am wrong for wanting to end this fake relationship? Do you think I should just cut off all ties with the both of them, and just get on with my life?

 

You are right.  You should get rid of him. He is no good. He lied to you not only once, but several times.  Once someone crosses the line, it is very hard to go back and trust them again.   It is okay to be his friend, but after at least 3 months or more of not talking to him at all.  You have to have sometime for yourself to heal and to feel that it is over. Otherwise, you will continue to feel attached to him.  The truth is, if you want to move on, you will have to close this chapter in your life. Once you have closed it, you will be able to open a new chapter.  Good luck!