I am in a loving, committed relationship with a very honest man. He revealed to me recently that when he was younger (late teens, early 20's) he had two separate gay experiences. Both times a man had asked my boyfriend if they could give him a blow job. He says he does not have gay tendencies and I believe him. My concern is if he is in some sort of denial and has not allowed himself to fully explore this part of his sexuality? My real question I guess is, is it normal for a heterosexual male to have had a blow job from another man and not be considered gay? In the dark

 

It is common for drunk heterosexual men to have some kind of sexual experiences with other males.  Some men do always wonder if they could be gay as they are always judged by society.  Some men do find out after having sex with other men, that they are really not into it and they do prefer women. Some other men do find out they like having sex with men, but they can never have a relationship with another man so they pursue a hetero relationship instead. Some other men do like being gay and stay that way.  So it is really hard to say if your boyfriend is in denial or not. Only him can answer that question and only you can decide whether to believe his answer or not.  My advise is to listen to your gut feeling.  Good luck!