I just turned 35, and I have given up on meeting Mr. Right. Even though hooking up with a guy is no problem, I am of that old fashioned way of being intimate with someone you are in love with. So I pretty much have been abstaining from sex of a long time. My problem is that there is this younger guy at my job that is always flirting with me. He constantly makes comments like, "he knows he can satisfy my every fantasy", or "he is good at doing everything he does, and he means everything". He is 24, but looks like he is 17. I have constantly tried to avoid having any private contact with him, but he some how tends to pop up where I am. I have no problem with my sexuality, and I do understand that some gay men tend to be private about who they are trying to hook up with. So it doesn't concern me that when we do talk privately, the mood and conversation suddenly changes when someone comes around. I came right out and asked him once, why he always make comments that can be consider rather feminine towards another man. That's when he told me he knew he could satisfy my every fantasy. He has never come right out and said he was gay or bisexual. But he has given me some very strong vibes. I am usually right about such feelings, but this time I am not sure. Maybe it's because I haven't played the game of cat and mouse in so long I am just misreading the signs. My major problem is that I am starting to find myself attracted to this young man and I am starting to become flirtatious back with him. I am not about being played for a fool, and I don't want to end up embarrassed, or worst hurt by someone who is all about a one night stand. I just wondered if you could suggest a way I could find out what his true intentions are, or should I just chaulk this up to being an older guy who has a hot younger man flirting with him.

 

What if he says no, what if he is a player, what if he is going to break my heart.  The truth is you will never know until you do it.  There are no guarantees in life.  You either go for it and find out the hard way or you don't and may loose a chance of a life time.   The best way to live is to have no regrets in life. Always live your life to the fullest and remember to listen to your gut feeling.   You only live once and later may be too late.