I seek your advice, I have been living in a flatting situation with a guy for about 8 months. Never before ever having feelings for men. I have had very strong feelings for him since we first met, these feelings have grown over the months that I have gotten to know him better. We get on really well & share everything (including detrimental secrets). We talk about things (cars, furniture, house) as "ours", and discuss our futures as though the other will somehow be involved. I have read your advice columns on how to tell if a guy is interested in you, and have spoken to other gay friends. I believe that if I initiated something he would be happy to continue... The thing is that I have never actually initiated an intimate affair - especially with a guy, and am hideously afraid of the possible rejection & ruining our wonderful friendship - I know that on the other hand, if I do nothing I might miss out on the best thing to ever happen to me. How can I overcome this fear - and what is the best way to initiate such an encounter? Thanks.

 

It seems that you already know what to do, but you are afraid to do so.  The best way to overcome fear is to confront it.  Once you do it, you will see it is not so bad after all.  How can you initiate an encounter?  Dinner is usually the best way.  So you may want to take him out for a romantic dinner and then tell him how you feel. Sometimes honesty is best.  If he says no, at least you tried and now you know what to expect. If he says yes, well...you will be the happiest man on earth. Go for it!