Dear Max, Why can't an attractive young man find a guy anymore? I am 24, tall, and most would say good looking, but it seems that I can't find any guys that want to actually pursue a relationship. I get hit on a lot, and I try to see if these guys want more than a roll in the hay...but most want sex...period. Then the ones that do want more are either possessive and crazy or desperate and lonely. I think I am a nice person and very approachable, but my friends say that I can have a bit of an aloof way about me, and is it wrong to have standards...such as no sex on the first few dates, and getting to know a guy before committing to anything? Please help this lonely young man...tell me if I am f--king up. JT

 

You are not alone. It is easy to find sex but very difficult to find love.   In order to find your prince, you have to kiss a lot of frogs.  Be patient and be open about new experiences and new places.   Go to a place away from bars. Go to a gym, a park, a supermarket or join a gay group if possible. That way, you will meet guys that are interested in more things than just sex.  Of course guys will always be guys.  Sex will always be in their minds and that's not bad.  You will learn to see who has more to offer than just sex.   The whole thing about no sex on the first few dates is kind of crazy and most guys will not understand that. They may think that you are really not interested in them and then they will move on. Sometimes you have to show them what you have to offer so they know you are interested.   Of course, that's all up to you.   Good luck!